To tell DH he will need to start cooking when step children are here

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Because I'm sick of wasting my time on meals that just get pulled faces and left.

This isn't a DSC problem, I understand kids can be fussy eaters, but DH is always mithering me to make sure I cook nice healthy meals when DSC stay (I would anyway but id make them simpler stuff that I know they'd like) but say if I bought something a bit different for us two when they weren't here he'd moan that he wants DSC to try things like that.

Except when I do they never want to eat it and it gets left. DH goes on about wanting them to try things but never asks them to, they will look at something and immediately say they don't like it, 'can I leave X and Y' etc... And he always says yes fine.

I know what they will and won't eat and would happily cook just that whilst they were here but he's always insistent on wanting them to try other stuff but yet never makes them.

AIBU to say from now on if he wants them to try new things and 'fancier' meals, he can waste his own time cooking them for it just to get thrown in the bin.

He wants them to eat it then he cooks it or it's the meals you want to do from now on...

Absolutely- this sounds completely reasonable to me.
Does he not even try to coax them into trying it? If not that’s very disappointing.

YANBU. My step kids were exactly the same, as was DH. Sod that, I stopped cooking too and told them to make their own meals.

Funnily enough that didn’t last long. Now they eat pretty much anything because they hate cooking for themselves! They even had the audacity to whinge when I made beige food for a break from healthy cooking because proper home cooked food is apparently now better!!

Don’t be treated like a maid. Your DH needs to cook for his own children.

Absolutely.

Easy to dictate a diet when you're not the one doing it.

My dad used to blag my head saying how easy it is to diet and lose weight when it was my mother doing all the cooking and all he had to do was eat it.

Sometimes they need a dose of reality.

Wouldn't have been cooking whilst he sits on his arse in the first place.

These men with kids are legion, I'm amazed how they find yet another woman to do the donkey work for their kids, and then whinge about it.

YANBU. He does the cooking then. Let him hoist his own petard

Yes, it would be good to say that to him.

I'd also ask him to get the children involved in the cooking, if possible. They're much more likely to try new foods if they've helped cook them, which would be good for everyone.

You’re well within reason here.
His demands are ridiculous.

He should be absolutely cooking for them if he’s complaining about what you cook.

Even without this scenario - cook chooses what meal they cook. Others may ask, but cannot dictate.

I would leave all cooking and entertaining to him when they visit. And when they're not there I think it should be a 50:50 split anyway.

YANBU at all. Your DH should do the cooking for them, but I bet he would soon change his tune when the food he's cooked doesn't get eaten.

YANBU. What did his / their last slave die of?! He can sort it and deal with the moaning

What’s actually stopping him from cooking himself? Stop indulging his twattery.

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What’s actually stopping him from cooking himself? Stop indulging his twattery.

Oh, he has a penis 'works long hours' 'has a manual job' 'doesn't get off work till X' 'can't cook' . . . any one of the myriad of excuses women use to enable men like this. What would he do without his dogsbody if she weren't there and it's his contact time? He'd have to buck up or pay someone.