To ask neighbours to move their trampoline?

[FlippertyGibberty]

Neighbours at the back of us have put their trampoline along the back fence. Now when we’re in the garden, their DC are looking over and it’s starting to piss me off as there is no privacy.

Their garden seems to be higher towards the back so they can clearly see in the garden just when they are standing on the trampoline not only when jumping. Also into the back of the house! They have friends around a lot after school and there can be 3 or 4 of them peering over. Our gardens are only 30ft long so they’re pretty close.

They have a shed they could put it in front of to shield it a bit and it was further down the garden originally but now they’ve put it right at the back.

We have a trampoline ourselves but it’s further down with a pergola blocking it from them and their shed is behind it. I would never put a trampoline where it would invade neighbours privacy.

DH thinks I’m being a grinch and it’s just kids so not a problem but I don’t want to be stared at while sitting in my own garden!

So AIBU?

I'd move your trampoline so it's invading their space

You could ask, but expect a no. Their garden, their choice where they put it.

can you put up some trellis to make a point?

@DingDongDenny

I'd move your trampoline so it's invading their space

This. And put up some trellis.

@DingDongDenny

I'd move your trampoline so it's invading their space

Yes that is what I thought...

YANBU to ask but they’re not obliged to move it. I’d stick a trellis/fence up if not.

We have decking all along the bottom of our garden and the trampoline won’t fit on it.

Thought of putting something up on the fence but it’d need to be about 3ft and the fence is theirs as they replaced the old one a few years ago.

Their garden so they can place it where they like but if you ask politely they may well move it.

Can’t sit on the decking either with them right there either!

I'd mention it was bothering you before spending time or money.
I'd move ours in a heartbeat if it was overlooking a neighbour.
If they refuse then trellis.

Talk to them.

Or go topless. Theyll soon move the little darlings in

You can put up a really tall fence on your side. My ex neighbour did this to deal with the horrific woman who lived between us

even if it is their fence it doesn't stop you putting some screening upon your side and some tall plants in pots, it wouldn't take that much room up on decking.

I’d definitely say something. Kids looking into my garden would really piss me off. Tell them they should move it as when you and your husband have sex in the garden it may distress them

Put your trampoline at the back and attach gazebo sides around it. I did and it works brilliantly. I've heard a few comments from the back neighbours children about how they can't see over now 😂

Just ask - if they are decent neighbours they will move it.

Does your decking mean that you can see into their garden? Because if so then it is hypocritical!

I would just put something up on the fence.

It’s their garden they can put their trampoline where they like . If the gardens are that small and they have their seating areas at the top end near the house where do you propose they put it ?

No harm in politely asking but expect they might say no and know how to handle that gracefully. It’s their garden and their choice where to put it.

Higher fence.

You can ask but as other have said their garden their choice. Our trampoline is placed in the coolest part of the garden with the most shade. We do this as we don’t want the trampoline baking in the sun especially don’t want them jumping in the sun, plus 2 of my DCs can’t wear sunscreen. So I wouldn’t move ours but I’d happily let the neighbours put up something to block the view as long as it looked ok, even if it went on our side of the wall. I’d also tell my DCs not to be so bloody nosy and stop staring at the neighbours, but I’d do this without being told if I knew they were doing it.

Bamboo in pots on the decking - if all else fails!