To say thankyou ?

[Fruitflower]

Over the weekend I was having a clear out at my aunt's .
Lots of rubbish as you can imagine , however came across a sindy dolls house.
It seemed a shame to throw it so we offered it to my sil.
She said she wanted it but wasn't paying as it wasn't brand new and it would need a clean .
I'd never asked any money for it and I'd never give away something that obviously had twenty years of dust on it.
So it was cleaned up and taken to my sil house.
Her house is always a bit chaotic and my mom was there and to be honest after being in the loft I wanted to clean up do didn't stay long .

It's now Tuesday I haven't had a text to say thankyou or anything off her.
I know it hasn't cost me anything but a bit of gratitude would have been nice .

Or am I being unreasonable thinking a simple thankyou for my effort in cleaning it up and getting it to her wouldn't hurt

It wouldn't bother me If I liked her but if there was friction between us I'd be peeved! And who knows - she might thank you later.

Did she say thank you when you gave it to her?

She might have said thank you if you'd been there longer. Sounds like it was a bit chaotic and she probably forgot.

Who took it to your SIL’s house? Didn’t she thank whoever it was then? Presuming so, I wouldn’t really expect another separate thank-you message for an old second hand toy presumably otherwise on its way to the charity shop.

I think it’s your general dislike of your SIL clouding this tbh.

Maybe she thought you were close enough to understand she'd be grateful without having to make a big show of it. I wouldn't be expecting a follow up text.

Whenever people have given me toys I always feel like they are trying to dump their unwanted stuff on me, maybe she took but doesn't really want it.

I'd rather she had said that .

Well to be honest with you it's kind of irrelevant now as she has posted it on a buying and selling page for £30 .

Do much for trying to build bridges .

@Fruitflower

I'd rather she had said that .

Well to be honest with you it's kind of irrelevant now as she has posted it on a buying and selling page for £30 .

Do much for trying to build bridges .

Message her and give her the name of a charity your aunt would like the money to go to and tell her to send them the £30.

@ThatIsMyPotato

Maybe she thought you were close enough to understand she'd be grateful without having to make a big show of it. I wouldn't be expecting a follow up text.

Saying thank you isn’t a big show

Good idea about asking her to donate it to charity .

Saying thankyou not a big show but it's common decency to me.

I agree with you OP, and she's a CF for selling it on! She didn't want to pay for it, but is expecting to make some cash from it, after you went to the trouble of cleaning it and delivering it to her! I doubt very much whether the money she makes on it will go to charity, she seems like a nasty piece of work to me, and I think in future I'd take anything to the tip rather than give it to her, but that's just me!

I was trying to be nice and this is what I get in return .
She isn't aware I know what she is up to , as due to my job I use a different name on public FB account ( it's amazing how many patients look you up and try and add you ! ).

Can't be bothered to say anything to her now tho !

Wow! That is so rude. I'd be tempted to ask for a cut!