Am I being needy?

[DanaLq18]

I've been feeling insecure the past few days so I need some straightforward opinions and advice and I know mumsnet is the best place for that.

I've been with my boyfriend a year and a half. We are mid 20s and haven't moved in with each other yet.
Anyway, since restrictions have lifted, I feel he has got less communicative with me.

I feel I am initiating a lot of conversations and keeping conversation going on the phone whilst his input is really just a 'yes' 'no' or very short.

I brought up the other day that I was feeling we weren't speaking as much and he said he's just been busy and he loves me.

But yet, he seems to have time to get drunk with his friends, yet no time to properly converse with me.

Anyway, I'm posting on here because last night we had a phone call for 20 minutes at about half 6 and he said he had to go to the shop quickly but he'll ring me back once he's out.
He never rang back so I sent him a message at 11pm saying goodnight and I love him.

I have woken up to just a 'hi'.
That's it:
'hi'.

That was an hour ago and I haven't bothered to reply as he just seems so short lately.

The thing is, I have never felt insecure like this before. Usually, we don't message much so it's not unusual but something inside me is feeling really insecure.

I was thinking of giving him a call as he is off work today but I don't want to come across needy.

If I'm being crazy of cukoo or acting needy then please let me know. I am happy to take constructive criticism and for some truth-tellings.

I think i'm more upset that he said he would call back but didn't and then I just didn't hear off him.

It sounds like something is wrong, most boyfriends would call back when they say they will or respond with something more than hi. You mention this is a change in behaviour, so he hasn’t always behaved like this?
Yes, I do think you are being a little needy though.
Maybe focus on yourself and friends for a few days.
Then sit down with him in person and ask if anything is wrong because you don’t feel connected anymore and it’s not how you want your relationship to be.

@MrsLion He lives about an hour away so often we see each other on the weekends. Usually we phone call in the week to see how each other's day was.
However, this week I've started to feel more like a nuisance. Like he's not making any effort and it's more of a chore for him. I don't know though. This is the first time i've felt like this since we have been together.

I wouldn't have minded that he didn't call me back if he sent a quick goodnight message, as usually that's what he would do. Send a message saying 'sorry really tired but goodnight, I love you," or whatever.

But to just disappear felt a bit strange!

Tbh it sounds like he os mandumping you, aka being distant until you get pissed off enough to dump him.

Pull back, dont raise it with him. If he isn't making an effort then gice him what he wants and dump him, you can do better than that immaturity.

@An0n0n0n

Tbh it sounds like he os mandumping you, aka being distant until you get pissed off enough to dump him.

Pull back, dont raise it with him. If he isn't making an effort then gice him what he wants and dump him, you can do better than that immaturity.

I think I agree with this. Your gut instinct is usually right with these things.

Although there's a a ball chance he might actually just be busy. There was a period during the early days of my relationship with DH where I thought he was going off me so I pulled back and in turn he thought I was going off him. Silly miscommunication.