On the back of another thread....AIBU about my birthday?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

I had a lockdown birthday last year and this year I can plan something....however....

I have been made redundant from the job that I was paid enough in to cover to costs for all 6 attendees. I didnt get a pay out as not there long enough and now in a v part time job (which I am grateful for!). So WIBU to set up a group chat with everyone saying

"Here is the menu, the restaurant wants pre orders and £10 deposit PP by X date. I would like to cover everyone's bill but you know my circumstances so I am only able to pay for myself. I need to send me your deposits and pre orders by Z date so I can pay the restaurant. If you dont want to come I completely understand, but please let me know asap. Much love xx"

Or is that too....I dont know...begging?! Desperate? I want to pay for everyone but I really cannot afford to and I think that the people I have invited are assuming they are paying for themselves but the fact that I have to make a point of saying "I cant pay, if you want to come you have to pay" seems very crass!

I think it's perfectly straight to the point and I'm sure people will understand.

I'd much rather everyone knew where they stood (both as a guest or the host) beforehand.

Have a lovely birthday

My thoughts that a lot of people are struggling financially atm so going to a restaurant and paying a deposit may put a lot of people off.
Personally, I'd just go for drinks as then people can stick to what they can afford without feeling pressured.

And come to think of it, any time I've been out for someone's birthday in a small group like that, no-one has expected the host to pay. We've always chipped in and payed theirs.

Except my Dad. He's a bugger for sneaking off to the 'toilet' and paying the bill before anyone's noticed

Cheers @WorraLiberty old mate!

@Houseofvelour the guests are stonkingly well off (seven figures PA well off!) but we've always done "pay for the party" in the past and its worked out evens over a years worth of birthdays. But I just cant do that this time. I hate being the poor relative this time even though I know that they wouldnt mind....my issue I guess.

Oh and @WorraLiberty my dad does the same too!