Is it weird to ask this.

[inmyshoos]

My partner works in care, does sleepovers. He calls me to say goodnight and I ask what the plans are for tmrw at work. He tells me about this day trip and it's an activity that needs another member of staff. I ask what time they start in the morn because he said they'd leave early, I'm just making conversation, being interested in his day and he says 'why?'

Things have been pretty shit recently and perhaps that's why it has pissed me off so much but I'm willing to hear if oth r people think that it's weird to ask this. Maybe I just shouldn't take an interest in his day. In the end up he sarcastically said, she's in at 9, then she's getting her eyebrows waxed at 5....

Aibu?
Fwiw our relationship is currently hanging by a thread and I just don't see that kind of reaction as the actions of someone trying to make things work.
And just incase anyone thinks I'm some jealous bunny boiler and that's what lies behind this, we have no jealousy issues at all....just to cover all bases

Only ever one sleepover person. Accommodation only has facilities for one.
Definitely no trust issues.

He had just spent time discussing the cost of the activity they were doing, detailing it, making small talk because as pp have said not much going on at the moment and small talk is OK I think.

Issues are deeper wider issues from his past and yes im making a big effort and at the moment the negative issues he has brought into my life are currently heavily outweighing any positives. I guess this is why i sound hard work..... If I'm giving my all to someone who is giving little back due to their own issues from the past, I don't expect sharp sarcastic remarks when I ask an innocent question.

Christ if we didn't talk about mundane shit like that there would be nothing to talk about at the minute!!

So true! Obviously it is possible to make any question sound suspicious, but in this case it sounds more like two people whose communication is breaking down, so any comment can come out wrong or be picked up wrong. I don't think there was anything wrong with the question in itself, but if I were looking to take offence, I can see myself being irritated by it.

I think you know OP the answer.

Protect yourself.