Fussy dh

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Dh is a picky eater, I blame his mother also mostly beef and chicken (farming background) but is happy to eat vegetarian a couple of times a week which I love. I go along with this as I'm bored with cooking having brought up a family and especially after lockdown! Tonight we had duck with orange at his request as said ages ago he really liked it. I didn't make it really, it was gressingham and came with the sauce. I did new potatoes, asparagus and green beans with it. He left most of it and said it's not how I thought it would be. AIBU to be cross that most of it got chucked? I thought it was ok.

Does he ever do any cooking?

I can imagine you feel disheartened...... but equally isn’t it good that he asked for something different and tried it?
So what he didn’t like it, but at least he tried something new, that’s how he’ll discover new things he likes - but if you put pressure on him to have to like new things, then he won’t try new thing....

Let him cook for himself..? Then itll be exactly what he thought .

He’s entitled to an opinion, everyone has foods they like or dislike. Duck with orange is a very variable dish and you bought a pre-made version which in my opinion, are hardly ever as nice as home made. I always tell my DH, if he just doesn’t like something new Ive tried cooking, it is ok and better to feed it to the cats or bin it than force himself to eat it. Honesty is more important than clearing your plate and lying.

If he asks for something he doesn't really ask for then the rule is he sources and cooks OP.

My husband very very occasionally will reject my cooking. He learns his lessons after a few weeks of cooking for himself after a mega long shift at work.

It's fucking rude and I've no clout with it me.

The other option is to cook meat with a nice sauce to add separately.

Why did you chuck it?

You could've stir fried it tomorrow

He needs to at least share the cooking.

And not put food on his plate that he’s not confident of eating, so that it can be used as leftovers.

Seems a bit of an odd dish to request. It's unreasonable of him to have tried it in a restaurant and loved it and expect you to be able to whip one up to the same standard. It shows a lack of respect of the time and effort put in.

When you say he's fussy, does he genuinely 'dislike' a lot of things, or when he says he 'doesn't like' something he just means he wants a plate full of his very favourite foods, and anything 'meh' he 'doesn't like'?

I think I am being unreasonable, thanks for the comments. I didn't keep the duck as he really wasn't keen. As to him cooking there is only so much sausage casserole I can eat lol (forgot he likes sausages). but he's brilliant at diy and building things for the chickens and sheep so I shouldn't moan 😆

If my husband was that fussy he'd be cooking his own meals. I really could not be bothered with trying to feed a fussy adult. Fussy toddlers are enough work.

My husband is generally a good egg but moaned once about having the same dinners on rotation. So I gave him some cook books and told him to pick something exciting that he could cook.

One ottelenghi recipe, about 6 hours, £40 and 2 dishwashers full later he declared that cooking is MUCH harder, more expensive and less fulfilling than he thought and suddenly gained a newfound appreciation for my culinary talents

Not sure why comments on how he has to share the cooking. There are many ways to split housework equally that don’t involve sharing every task or making up rules about who cooks when. Many couples I know split it by task...for example one does all the food shopping, cooking and dish washing and the other does all the house cleaning.

Argh, I feel for you. I had a fussy ex. I can't stand fussy eaters. It is where my line is! DH will eat pretty much anything I give him thankfully, but he's crap at DIY...

I don’t think you can really be annoyed that he didn’t like something; he was probably disappointed that it wasn’t like he thought it would be.

I have the same experience regularly with my teenagers. So annoying!

My DH didn't like mushrooms or kidney beans when we got together.. He loves them now!! I'm a much better cook than his mum, and he's getting better at cooking too :-)