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To be annoyed at breaking of covid re-entry quarantine

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PicaK · 03/05/2021 12:14

Ex-Dh went to visit friends over weekend - socially distanced, in garden. One of them lives/works abroad and pops back.
They arrived back yesterday but has been out and about shopping etc. And obviously having friends over.
Ex-dh genuinely didn't know this til he got there. But then comes in my house before he tells me.
I'm pissed off.
But am I overreacting? I haven't followed the rules religiously - hugged a friend when crying. Seen my parents inside before bubbles were allowed etc.
Aibu to be annoyed with flagrant rule breaking when I haven't followed 100% myself.

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paralysedbyinertia · 03/05/2021 12:18

I think yabu to be annoyed if you have been breaking the rules yourself. But yes, your DH's friend is also being very unreasonable.

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UCOinanOCG · 03/05/2021 12:19

What does his friend do? Some jobs are exempt from the quarantine rules.

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PicaK · 03/05/2021 12:20

Beauty therapist

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mumto2teenagers · 03/05/2021 12:21

Are you certain the rules were broken and he wasn't exempt.

Either way YABU to be annoyed if you haven't followed the rules 100% yourself.

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PinkiOcelot · 03/05/2021 12:22

But there’s breaking the rules and breaking the rules. To me, yours were minor indiscretions but coming in from abroad and just merrily going about your business is disgusting. They should be reported and fined. No wonder it’s not going anywhere.

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Timper · 03/05/2021 12:23

Is she in Dubai..?

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PicaK · 03/05/2021 12:25

No mainland Europe

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 03/05/2021 12:28

@PinkiOcelot

But there’s breaking the rules and breaking the rules. To me, yours were minor indiscretions but coming in from abroad and just merrily going about your business is disgusting. They should be reported and fined. No wonder it’s not going anywhere.

Disagree. The rules are rules, you either follow them or you don't. You are a hypocrite if you break rules yourself but then judge others for breaking them.
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paralysedbyinertia · 03/05/2021 12:32

The rules are rules, you either follow them or you don't. You are a hypocrite if you break rules yourself but then judge others for breaking them.

I agree with @Waxonwaxoff0 on this. Everyone who breaks the rules will probably have a rationale as to why it's ok for them to do that. All of them have presumably "done their own risk assessment". You either believe that the rules should be followed or you are ok with everyone doing their own thing.

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sunflowersandbuttercups · 03/05/2021 12:34

Why is it okay for you to break the rules, but not okay for other people to do the same?

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SouthOfFrance · 03/05/2021 12:36

You seem to be OK with breaking the rules but not OK with others breaking them, I can see how you've justified it in your mind but she's probably done the same. You can't be annoyed.

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GrandTheftWalrus · 03/05/2021 12:36

I would've thought that they would've been required to go to a quarantine hotel if they've just came back into the country.

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 03/05/2021 12:38

@GrandTheftWalrus

I would've thought that they would've been required to go to a quarantine hotel if they've just came back into the country.

That's only for red list countries.
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ilovesooty · 03/05/2021 12:39

In principle the rules are the rules.

In practice I think failure to follow quarantine isolation when returning from abroad is far worse.

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AlmostSummer21 · 03/05/2021 12:40

I don't think anyone should break the rules. There's a reason for all of them, even if people can't understand it

However, there's a big difference between hugging & supporting a distraught friend than travelling to Europe and not quarantining when you get back.

Your EX DH shouldn't have come into your house anyway (unless you've weirdly chosen him to be your bubble) , but definitely not after this.

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GrandTheftWalrus · 03/05/2021 12:42

@Waxonwaxoff0 ah right! You'd think I'd know that given that dh works in one!

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PicaK · 03/05/2021 12:51

Of course he's in my bubble. How weird would that be for the kids if he wasn't. We're still one household.

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PicaK · 03/05/2021 12:52

Taking on board what people are saying though.

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