To be annoyed at breaking of covid re-entry quarantine

[PicaK]

Ex-Dh went to visit friends over weekend - socially distanced, in garden. One of them lives/works abroad and pops back.
They arrived back yesterday but has been out and about shopping etc. And obviously having friends over.
Ex-dh genuinely didn't know this til he got there. But then comes in my house before he tells me.
I'm pissed off.
But am I overreacting? I haven't followed the rules religiously - hugged a friend when crying. Seen my parents inside before bubbles were allowed etc.
Aibu to be annoyed with flagrant rule breaking when I haven't followed 100% myself.

I think yabu to be annoyed if you have been breaking the rules yourself. But yes, your DH's friend is also being very unreasonable.

What does his friend do? Some jobs are exempt from the quarantine rules.

Beauty therapist

Are you certain the rules were broken and he wasn't exempt.

Either way YABU to be annoyed if you haven't followed the rules 100% yourself.

But there’s breaking the rules and breaking the rules. To me, yours were minor indiscretions but coming in from abroad and just merrily going about your business is disgusting. They should be reported and fined. No wonder it’s not going anywhere.

Is she in Dubai..?

No mainland Europe

@PinkiOcelot

But there’s breaking the rules and breaking the rules. To me, yours were minor indiscretions but coming in from abroad and just merrily going about your business is disgusting. They should be reported and fined. No wonder it’s not going anywhere.

Disagree. The rules are rules, you either follow them or you don't. You are a hypocrite if you break rules yourself but then judge others for breaking them.

The rules are rules, you either follow them or you don't. You are a hypocrite if you break rules yourself but then judge others for breaking them.

I agree with @Waxonwaxoff0 on this. Everyone who breaks the rules will probably have a rationale as to why it's ok for them to do that. All of them have presumably "done their own risk assessment". You either believe that the rules should be followed or you are ok with everyone doing their own thing.

Why is it okay for you to break the rules, but not okay for other people to do the same?

You seem to be OK with breaking the rules but not OK with others breaking them, I can see how you've justified it in your mind but she's probably done the same. You can't be annoyed.

I would've thought that they would've been required to go to a quarantine hotel if they've just came back into the country.

@GrandTheftWalrus

I would've thought that they would've been required to go to a quarantine hotel if they've just came back into the country.

That's only for red list countries.

In principle the rules are the rules.

In practice I think failure to follow quarantine isolation when returning from abroad is far worse.

I don't think anyone should break the rules. There's a reason for all of them, even if people can't understand it

However, there's a big difference between hugging & supporting a distraught friend than travelling to Europe and not quarantining when you get back.

Your EX DH shouldn't have come into your house anyway (unless you've weirdly chosen him to be your bubble) , but definitely not after this.

@Waxonwaxoff0 ah right! You'd think I'd know that given that dh works in one!

Of course he's in my bubble. How weird would that be for the kids if he wasn't. We're still one household.

Taking on board what people are saying though.