AIBU to date this man?

[livingthesimplelife]

Hi there,

Thoughts on this situation please:

I have met a lovely man. We click, have similar interests, has been a long time since I've connected with someone like this.

But, it turns out, his ex wife is dating (and living with) my ex. She has two children with the man I am speaking with.

Is it wrong to date this man?

So basically it's swapsies?

Why did they split up? How long have each of the couples been separated?

Why would it be wrong?

How'd you meet?

Did he already know you're the ex wife of his ex's new partner?

Oh that's a weird one! I guess the issue is that dating is fine - but if it gets more serious/anyone has more children it would get a bit complicated.

Does everyone still get on well?

Do you live in a really small village / community or something, OP?

It’s definitely not wrong.

How coincidental is your meeting? Who pursued who? If you’re certain that this isn’t some weird ulterior motive/revenge thing behind him wanting to date you, then crack on.

Thanks for all the replies! Appreciate it's an odd one and considering I live in a city (albeit a small on), the chances of this happening are very slim!
We met online, and I thought I recognised him and it only clicked who he was after we got talking (am still amicable with ex after splitting a year ago so can see on his fb). He doesn't know about the situation yet either - that's my other conundrum, I know I need to raise it soon!

depends do you have kids with your ex?

Haha I'd suggest a double date?

No but don't see the issue if you've got a good thing going!

Do you have kids with ex? If yes , not the end of the world, but deffo more complicated sibling step relationships. If not, less of a problem

As long as you can be sure he hasn't targeted you to get back at his and your exes, then I don't see a problem.
If your ex has a type and he has a type it is looking like you and his ex are the type for both. You might find you and his ex have a lot in common.
Best for you both to ditch the men and get together yourselves. It makes sense and it is much more likely to be a rewarding relationship
Good luck.

Oof.

Definitely a bit weird, but not wrong.

If you're both (you and your dp) ok with it then go for it. You only live once and you deserve to be happy