AIBU?
To think friend should pay me back?
ohchristmastree7 · 02/05/2021 19:13
My close friend of around 10 years use to be a beautician but now has another job. She still does a bit of beauty work, mainly with previous clients on the side. I regularly go to her to have beauty treatments done. It was my mother’s birthday back in December and I paid her £60 (she gives me a discount) to do a few treatments (eyebrows, dermaplaning etc). I left it to both of them to arrange the appointment. My mum had been trying to arrange it since mid January but every time she asked her if she was available, she said no and told her she would be in touch but never contacted her. At the end of March I asked her if we could cancel it since it was proving difficult to arrange an appointment, and asked her if she would be happy to refund me.
I think this annoyed her as she said she would but couldn’t for another month until she was paid. I said that was fine as I honestly wasn’t in a rush to get the money back. She still hasn’t refunded me, even though it’s been a month. I have also seen her a couple of times for a catch up and she has shown me the new clothes, make up, home accessories that she’s bought in the last month. Of course she is free to spend her money how she see’s fit, but she clearly has the money to pay me back. I just don’t think she wants to.
AIBU?
CareBear50 · 02/05/2021 19:18
If you regularly get beauty sessions with her.....Next time you book in.....at end of session ask her to take the £ off the £60 credit she has. Alternatively, if you feel up to it, have an honest conversation with her....give her a chance to air her views and vice versa. If this is your first 'issue' in ten years it would be good if you could clear the air, otherwise the resentment/unfairness could eat away at your friendship x
themalamander · 02/05/2021 19:18
I've just assumed the OP is in a country where treatments have been allowed.
If you're in the UK then she has an excuse; she hasnt been allowed to do it. Your mum should book for when these are allowed. If your friend isnt planning on doing it, then a refund should be given regardless of covid.
Lostinthemail · 02/05/2021 19:19
Could it be she is annoyed that you assumed the discount you get for your own treatments extends to your friends and family? She might not be assertive enough to just say no, but knows you’ll not be in any rush to book anything with her again soon, so she is off the hook?
Rose789 · 02/05/2021 21:02
So your friend has given you a discount on treatments for the last 10 years. You have then asked for the same discount for your mum.
It’s the midst of a global pandemic. Beauticians have not been able to open. She does this on the side of a full time of job.
One of you is a CF- I don’t think it’s your friend
Whitchurch · 02/05/2021 21:07
The price is irrelevant - the beautician set the price and set the discount. Mum has been trying to book since January - Op didn't say when for. An appointment in the future when expecting to be back working would have been nice.
The friend said she'd refund and hasn't.
So who exactly is the CF here? It isn't Op is it?
Op - send her your bank details. I think the friendship didn't mean much to her.
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