AIBU to feel like the bad one?

[SonnyWinds]

Not sure if this is so much AIBU as "am I unusual?"

I see a lot of posts on here (naturally) from people complaining about their OH or their DCs and I'm unsure whether I'm the only one who feels like they're actually the one who's a bit of a let down.

For example, DH works part-time three days per week but he looks after DS on the two days when I'm at work. His salary would be slightly higher than mine if we both worked full-time but because I'm full-time, I'm the main wage earner.
I do all the cooking and organising but DH does the washing up, cleans a lot, does the gardening, does all the driving (I have epilepsy so I can't drive), he's AMAZING with DS and is definitely DS's favourite. DH takes the bins out (I've NEVER done it, ever), he picks up the dog poo in the garden, he does all the DIY.
He also completely puts up with me when I'm stressed or angry or depressed. He's way more tolerant of my flaws than I am of his - and I have a lot more flaws than he does. He puts up with any family drama from my (completely lovely) but dramatic mother and he allows me to rant about mundane shit and responds appropriately even though I know he doesn't care.

I feel like I'm the weak link in my family and I'm not sure how to fix it. DH and DS are both absolutely gorgeous looking and I'm average at best - so I avoid being in any photos because I completely ruin them (not fishing here, I'm not a looker but I was when I met DH so I snagged him just in time haha). I don't work as hard as DH and I'm generally less likeable - everyone loves him.

Because I feel like I'm not as good as them I put no real effort into myself - unless I'm going to work I don't wear make up or do my hair and just wear DH's hoodies/trackies or leggings. I also don't make time for myself with social activities (I used to be a HPA but haven't played my sport at all since I fell pregnant). I feel like DH will leave but I don't know how to be better or how to motivate myself to be better?

Any success stories out there from anyone who's been through this?

Doesn't sound good OP.

Why don’t you just help your husband out more and do yourself up sometimes so you start feeling better? You’ve recognised what’s obviously making you feel crappy so it’s down to you to make those changes to feel better.

Its a shame that you are letting whatever issues you have stop you being in photos, memories of time you will never get back.

Your DH does a lot! Share the jobs out. Even if you’ve never took the bins out before, start.
Start making an effort in your everyday appearance it’ll make you feel better.
Not everyone gets dressed properly if they don’t need to but even if your wearing your trackies, do your face and hair.

I think the two things you need to change are your self esteem (you need a boost!) and to be in more family photos. As an adult now do you look back and wish your mum was in fewer photos because she wasn’t attractive enough? Or do you want as many pictures of both your parents as possible?

I have a number of health issues and owe it to myself to wear make up daily . It doesn't have to be a lot. My base face as I call it is just foundation for covering my awful skin, eyeliner and doing brows as only have a partial brow.I add lippy later.
This makes me feel better .I never could dress casual. I now am not the shape for grand clothes but work with styles that flatter .
I feel better about myself when have face on and am wearing something nice. You are worth it. Start with little things. I also walk a bit daily using a stick or rollator.
Could you be feeling depressed?

Everyone deserve to look good for themselves.

Not every relationship is 50:50 all the time. Also you quite possibly have good points that you aren't recognising. Maybe you make him laugh. Maybe, even though you don't like the way you look, he does.