I want to block them both

[sassysuspenders]

Hello all. Very tired new Mummy here

I had my little man two weeks ago, little bugger came a week overdue. I opted for a home birth with a friend in my social bubble, my midwife and my Mum present, it was really wonderful actually. It hurt but it was more relaxed than a hospital birth that's for sure. Anyways My ex-partner's Mum has just found out and despite claiming she and my ex want no contact with me and baby they now want to meet him - I told her I'm not having any visitors at the moment apart from two friends, My HV and Midwife and my Mum and she's kicked off. BIG TIME. Called me all sorts of names and thought up every laughable excuse she can from under the Sun

Right now I'm enjoying some me time while little man takes his nap and i'm considering blocking them both - They're playing mind games and they have been for nine months solid.

Would it be unreasonable just to say "Sod it" block their numbers and move on, I'm so beyond tired of all this crap they're putting me through. It's no wonder I'm not becoming ill with all this hassle

And for anyone wondering, I chose not to name him Lincoln in the end

Definitely block them.

Congratulations on your new little bundle

Being a new mum is hard enough, block them both and do not engage.

Congratulations 💐

You owe her absolutely nothing

Block she is showing you who she is and what she is like

Congratulations on your baby!

May I ask how old you are? Is there a reason why your ex is letting his mummy run after you like this, rather than taking responsibility himself? I'd suggest that you send a message to him, give an email address that you will only be using for child contact and make it clear that if he wants any relationship with his child, you will be taking it slowly with him initially before others (like his mum) get involved. Then block them all.

Don't put your ex on the birth certificate so he doesn't get any parental rights & register the baby with your surname.

Block them. They are not in your bubble and not essential visitors in any way shape or form, so they can sod off. Might make them think twice about the way they have treated you so far. Just be prepared for them to turn up at your house unannounced. If you live with your mum make sure she knows not to let them in. If you live alone and are not expecting anyone, then ignore the doorbell.

You may as well block now, you'll obviously end up having to do it sooner or later so best save yourself the stress and do it now. Anyone who will say those kind of things to the mother of their 2 week old GC is not someone you need in your life.

Could they maybe go through someone else to contact you? Like your mum maybe so they have to be more appropriate and polite in their messages? Unless you don’t want them to meet your son at all in which case blocking is the best option.

As mentioned, give him your surname and don't write the fathers name on the certificate. I'd blockety block.

Don’t add him to the birth certificate as then he has parental rights.

Wow, what a terrible way to behave, insulting a new mother.

I understand they want to see the baby but they should have just asked after you, the baby and shown a bit of patience at this point.

Block away. If, in the future an apology is forthcoming, then decide from there. But totally you owe them nothing.

Give the baby your surname yes. I regret not doing this.

Block. Block. Block! You are a brand new mum (huge congratulations) recovering from birth, in a pandemic with strict rules about who and how many people you can see and they think THIS is the time to stamp their feet and abuse you? Heck no, they're showing their colours nice and early. Make sure you protect your interests re - the birth certificate as advised above (your surname, no father listed) and enjoy these beautiful blissful new baby days.

@Milkywaystars

Don't put your ex on the birth certificate so he doesn't get any parental rights & register the baby with your surname.

This. Remember, he can't be added to the BC unless he is physically present at the appointment. So don't tell him or his mum when that is.

So it's your ex partners baby ?