Feeling sad for no reason

[Youaremysunshine09]

Posting in aibu as I know I am.

Had a good day today finally saw some family members (outside and socially distanced) that we haven't seen in months due to lockdown. Had a nice takeaway dinner & relaxing watching tv but I just feel very emotional. Not due to seeing the family members today as have had regular video contact etc and not the closest family members.

I have struggled a lot over the years due to my mental health which has been impacted due to covid lockdowns etc.

I feel like everything's getting on top of me at the moment. I feel I don't have a lot of time to myself, as I am a sahm, when dd is in school I am doing housework, running about for family members getting shopping etc.

I just feel very emotional tonight & guess I'm only posting in here for a rant in the hope that writing down my feelings will make me feel better.

I know there are so many people in the world worse off than me at the moment, my life is good and I am healthy and happy but feeling like this tonight is draining me

It's normal to feel down at times. Get yourself to bed, it's late. Try to get a good night's rest, even if you don't sleep much. It's always been the key for me.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, we have emotional times. Try to do a small thing to make you feel happier and realise this will pass

I understand completely. I too sometimes get utterly overwhelmed by a feeling of unbearable, overwhelming sadness, out of nowhere. I could have had a great day and then somehow it creeps in. I remember feeling like that even as a very small child. That for no explicable reason, I'd feel so sad and empty. Weirdly physically empty (like my stomach / midsection had been hollowed out) as well as emotionally empty. Obviously I wouldn't have described it like that at 5 years old , but I destinctly remember the feeling still, and that's the best way I can now describe it.

I also remember as a teenager coming across the German word 'Weltschmerz' and it resonating so much. It means (roughly) 'world pain' or 'world sadness' or I guess 'melancholy'. It just really just felt like I could finally put a name to how I so often felt.

I don't know, maybe some of us are just naturally sad people? Or less resilient or something? I'm sure it can also be situational, which I hope is the case for you. It has been a rough year so I'm sure it's perfectly normal to feel sad and emotional at times, even out of nowhere.

Hope you manage to get some sleep, and feel even a bit better tomorrow.

Also, sorry for my long, waffling, self-indulgent post

Noleafclover you have just explained so succinctly ow I felt as a child and still do, so nice to know other people get it too!
Op, I think maybe not seeing and then seeing them can be ore emotional and stressful than you realise. I know I get. A kind of sadness that I’ve realised is grief at things passing. Maybe have a warm drink and jus let yourself be sad. I was told the quickest way to get over being down is to let yourself cry whenever you feel it rather than be all strong .it does wor💐
Hope you feel better soon,

Aww. Do something nice. Just for yourself. And watch Repair Shop or something that will let you have a good cry. It lets all the bad, sad chemicals out.

Please stop labelling yourself as unreasonable. You’re not and you’re doing yourself a disservice by telling yourself you are. I would take it as your brains way of saying you have a need that’s not being met and start from there.

@Whymrsrobinson

Noleafclover you have just explained so succinctly ow I felt as a child and still do, so nice to know other people get it too! Op, I think maybe not seeing and then seeing them can be ore emotional and stressful than you realise. I know I get. A kind of sadness that I’ve realised is grief at things passing. Maybe have a warm drink and jus let yourself be sad. I was told the quickest way to get over being down is to let yourself cry whenever you feel it rather than be all strong .it does wor💐 Hope you feel better soon,

I'm kind of glad you get it, @Whymrsrobinson. I mean I'm not glad that you also feel that way, but much as I've tried to explain that feeling to people before, none of them have ever really understood it. And there's comfort to be found in knowing you're not alone in your feelings, I suppose.

I totally agree re embracing the sad feelings, having a good cry, and getting it out. Won't work for everyone, of course, but it definitely works for me. I fire up some music that is poignant to me and sob it out. It used to really frustrate DH, who would ask 'why are you listening to songs over and over that upset you', until I explained that it wasn't an upset, tragic cry, it was a good, healthy, cathartic cry. I don't do it in front of him by the way, just mentioned it to him and it baffled him until I fully explained it.

Hi NoLeafClover sorry didn’t realise you’d written back! Am glad I helped - it’s helped me too knowing you get that wierd feeling too. Gonna stick me on some sad tunes right now. 😀 this is great...

I think it’s part of the human condition to sometimes feel sad, sometimes for no real reason.
Someone once told me if you never experienced sadness how would you recognise happiness? Bloody irritating to be told that at the time but I think there is an element of truth in it.
Be kind to yourself.

I've felt like this today. Daily life things are getting back to normal & we have more to look forward to which makes me so happy but I'm out of sorts today and had to put on some evocative music and let it out. No real discernible reason but my mind feels like it needs to concentrate on a loss (not recent) as it keeps coming into my thoughts. I think the election results effect me too as I have a strong sense of social justice - I feel like the Gov let us down badly last year and that Johnson has acted corruptly & they don't seem to held to account over it & there is no credible opposition. Just more of the same to come. Not meaning to start a political debate as people feel differently but it leaves me feeling without hope or optimism that we could and should expect better conduct from our leaders.

Like you @Youaremysunshine09 my life is good and I am healthy and happy and have much to be glad of, just a transitory sad day.Weather's bleak here too so that doesn't help. It breaks my heart for people in depression who must feel like this or worse for so long, it must be very bleak.

I hope you've woken up feeling better today