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DH wants to send son to Eton College

53 replies

jacinthalt · 01/05/2021 12:02

DH went there as a child and loved it. Our DS will be 8 in October. DH wants to start getting him tutored for the entrance exam, but I cannot help but find the whole situation a little premature. He would not attend the school for another five years.

Other than that, I am sure Eton is a perfectly respectable abode, but all that bad press is rather fishy.

OP posts:
GlassBoxSpectacular · 01/05/2021 13:36

@RosesAndHellebores

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Are you also looking at Winchester, Wellington, Sevenoaks, etc? What does his prep advise?
This is a good point. The OP and her DH are presumably considering other schools as their fallback plan.

What have you discussed so far in terms of other educational options, OP?

Voomster953 · 01/05/2021 13:36

Check out the other posts by Jacintha 😂 👏🏻

GlassBoxSpectacular · 01/05/2021 13:39

@Voomster953

Check out the other posts by Jacintha 😂 👏🏻
Wink
EarlLeighIndamornin · 01/05/2021 13:43

I would have thought the end of lockdown in the UK would have put an stop to people who are clearly so fucking bored they have to resort to starting completely pointless threads on mumsnet.

Get a life op.

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 01/05/2021 13:43

I wouldn't send my child to Eton, he'd end up a twat, even if just by association.

midsomermurderess · 01/05/2021 13:56

What does that image mean, after the handclap?

midsomermurderess · 01/05/2021 14:00

Earl, someone on the not-to-be-mentioned other place has described most of the threads on here as being mind farts. A random thought that crosses your mind and you move on, but instead people put them on here and then runs it for 10-plus pages. It is sometimes quite bewildering. Sometimes, amusing.

Nanny0gg · 01/05/2021 14:01

@jacinthalt

DH went there as a child and loved it. Our DS will be 8 in October. DH wants to start getting him tutored for the entrance exam, but I cannot help but find the whole situation a little premature. He would not attend the school for another five years.

Other than that, I am sure Eton is a perfectly respectable abode, but all that bad press is rather fishy.

I thought you had to put their names down at birth?
Badgersmummy25 · 01/05/2021 14:02

Now, your son can come home from Eton every weekend, it isn't like the old days where you weren't allowed to see them till the holidays.

the80sweregreat · 01/05/2021 14:04

I do think it's unfair to tar all the people that have attended Eton college as all rich idiots who don't understand the real world just because a few high profile people have been there in the distant past.
It's been open since 1440 ( so wiki tells me) and I'm sure plenty of its former pupils are just normal people who were just lucky to have such a first class education.
As someone who went to a terrible 1970s comp I wished I'd had a better more rounded education although I wouldn't have made the grade for a grammar school aged 11 , let alone a private school I'm sure!
You do what is right for your son and look at all the options open to him. It's such a great opportunity for him and must already be showing great promise academically.
(The issue of private v state schools is a totally different thread really)

ZooeyS · 01/05/2021 14:07

Interestingly, or not, I know three men who went to Eton - none of them have sent their sons there (every last one of them attends a different boarding school).

ItsCokeFFS · 01/05/2021 14:08

Is Jane scheduled for the same educational opportunities?

Rubyupbeat · 01/05/2021 14:09

@ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets

I wouldn't send my child to Eton, he'd end up a twat, even if just by association.
Why is it okay to say that? Which is totally untrue, But not say derogatory things about comprehensives. I know plenty of twats and nasties who came out of them , (I went to one) no doubt the same percentage as public schools. Talk about inverted snobbery!
Voomster953 · 01/05/2021 14:14

@midsomermurderess

What does that image mean, after the handclap?
Not sure. I only put the two emojis but once I hit post there was a mysterious third blank, oddly flesh-coloured box.
the80sweregreat · 01/05/2021 14:15

My friends partner went to a boarding school and he hated it.
I've met a few people who have boarded and some loved it. Depends on the child i would imagine and their experience of being away from parents.
What would the answers be if the op had a girl and her dh wanted her to attend Roedean School?

midsomermurderess · 01/05/2021 14:16

Ah, I thought it was some cryptic comment, to pass under the radar.

MayIDestroyYou · 01/05/2021 14:47

Good Lord! The number of people commenting on something they know absolutely nothing about! Grin

No, you don't need to 'put his name down at birth'. Hmm

You actually don't need to start tutoring him at 8 for entrance exams.

You need to register by 10 and a half (that may have altered a little in the last couple of years, haven't checked). Costs a few pounds, puts you in the loop for information and on the list for the exams.

He doesn't need to attend a prep school first - they have a well established pathway for state school pupils - but it's quite fun to be at a prep where several other boys are preparing for the school, particularly if you're in the scholarship set.

All the application process is thoroughly explained on their website - why not take a look?

HuntingoftheSnark · 01/05/2021 18:05

@ItsCokeFFS

Is Jane scheduled for the same educational opportunities?
I think it's Felix who is down for Eton.
twinsmum2007 · 05/05/2021 22:39

My DS started at Eton last September and is loving it, even though Covid has meant it has been an odd start. He is thriving with the boarding aspect but I guess it’s not for all.
You do not need to have name down at birth, just follow the entrance requirements as listed out on their website. We started with a pre-test aged 10. He had no tutoring, we just went with the flow - and got offered a place. I personally wouldn’t have wanted to over tutor and then he struggle once there as it is rather an academic school ( and lots more!). Eton do their own test so I’m not quite sure what tutoring to advise but if your son is at a prep school, seek the advice of your head.
Also, do visit. And do take your son. See if he gets ‘the feel’ for Eton. If he does he’ll be inspired to work hard to get there. If not, maybe it’s not the place for him. Personally I think it’s a great school.

deslibris · 28/06/2021 04:56

They possibly didn’t get in - it’s very academically selective.

PiccalilliChilli · 28/06/2021 05:11

I have no experience of the private education sector but...as a parent, what does the OP want? Has her DH even asked her what she thinks? Maybe there is another school she prefers? Maybe a day school as opposed to hoarding?

Maireas · 28/06/2021 06:02

@Voomster953

Check out the other posts by Jacintha 😂 👏🏻
Could you enlighten us?
Maireas · 28/06/2021 06:05

"perfectly respectable abode"
What an odd way to describe Eton!
He'll be learning there, primarily, surely?...

deslibris · 28/06/2021 06:06

No “putting down at birth” doesn’t happen, the entrance process is outlined clearly on the website and is competitive. Approx 100+ applicants for for each place. Testing at 10+, common entrance, B-listing for some not offered ”A” places and entry to the school at 13. Eton encourages applicants from the state sector and entry is from 96+ different schools each year. Once offered places, boys are offered and enter Houses; circa 60 boys, mixed year groups, 9-11 boys per year group (F-B Block). Every boy has his own room from day 1 - no dorms - grouped on corridors generally by year. The house system is strong and is the central pivot for school life, anchored by the Housemaster and Dame (a “house mother”/matron) and their friendly team. Eton has a wide range of boys, international and diverse both in ethnicity and background. It is surprisingly anti “showy money”, boys encouraged to embrace other values of community, whilst there are, obviously, children from many very wealthy families. It’s highly academic and instills both a value in, and enjoyment of, academic pursuit. Teaching staff are generally outstanding and totally committed. It is a very “full on” and competitive environment. Unbelievable level of opportunities for sport, drama, art, design, music, societies etc, boys are expected to engage fully and also to keep up with their academics. Eg if you are rowing for the school that’s between 18-21 hours a week training, on top of other school, house and academic commitments. Eton boys come from a far wider range of backgrounds than might be expected from its external image. They all seem to get on well. The school has an extensive Bursary scheme and there are also senior school scholarships (entry for sixth form). The Kings Scholars are “in College” and there are “Oppidan Scholars” (OS’s) marked out by their academic performance upon entry or in school Trials - Eton’s own very rigorous exams. Scholars are not (necessarily) bursary related though KS’s get a % off fees as standard. The KS exam entrance is different to standard entry and is a very hard exam. Trials (school exams) take place in both the Autumn and Summer Half (terms) and are, by nature of their toughness, a good preparation for the public examinations. All classes are streamed by ability based, partially, on Trials results.
Pastoral care is generally excellent and, in addition to their Housemaster, boys are allocated an academic tutor who oversees academic development, choices and progress.
University advice is good and strategic (early enough to prioritise sensible choices at GCSE & A’Level or Pre U) and the boys (realistically) encouraged to aim high.

Eton encourages independence and self sufficiency- it’s a big school and the young boys who arrive aged 13 have to find their place in this large and vibrant community - they are assisted by their HM and older housemates. It will not suit every boy.
In my experience, it is an outstanding school which encourages thoughtful and respectful exchanges of views, a strong sense of community and support of others . I have been impressed generally by the kindness and emotional intelligence of the young Etonians I come into contact with. Good luck to your DS.

LEMtheoriginal · 28/06/2021 06:17

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