DH not up yet

[Keepyourdistance000]

Not really an AIBU but posting for traffic.

DH wanted a lay in this morning, but he's still in bed and I haven't yet heard him moving around.

No plans until this afternoon so it doesn't really matter, but he took a sleeping pill last night and I'm worried :(

Should I go and check on him? Worried he might not appreciate this if he is still resting.

Separate rooms in case anyone wondering why I didn't see him when I got up.

I’m still in bed. Let him rest.

Leave him be.

You...you need our thoughts as to whether you should stick your head round the bedroom door to check your husband is still breathing?

I am still in bed too. It’s bliss. I might just stay here forever.

Why are you worried?

If you're worried he's unwell of course go and check on him!

If you're just irked he's still in bed then leave him be.

My DH is still asleep too. Meant to be visiting my dad in half an hour. Think we might be late!

Maybe poke your head around the door or try to listen against the door and see if you can hear him breath or move if you're that worried.
Otherwise winner!! Go watch a movie or sit outside with a book! Or a bath or long hot shower! Have some you time!

If you are worried why don't you just pop your head in and check he is breathing? Surely that is the obvious thing to do?

I mean, the chances are he is just sleeping of course, and it wouldn't cross my mind to worry personally.

I’m concerned as to why you feel nervous about checking to see if your husband is still asleep. Are you worried about his reaction or is it from a hugely heightened sense of consideration?

Just heard him yawning and going into the shower

He was going to make himself a huge fry up this morning - probably going to be more like lunch now!

Are you downstairs looking after the baby triplets on your own? If not, let him have the lie in he told you he wanted.

@KittytheHare

I’m concerned as to why you feel nervous about checking to see if your husband is still asleep. Are you worried about his reaction or is it from a hugely heightened sense of consideration?

Both really. I wouldn't want to disturb him if he's still asleep and he may not be too happy about it.

Are you actually just annoyed because he's still in bed?

But intense OP.

My dh would literally sleep until lunch time at the weekend unless I wake him up!
He said it's like a switch for him, because he's so busy all week and he knows he doesn't have to wake up for work then he just sleeps!!

*bit.

I mean, he was having a sleep, it’s not even that late! A little strange to ask on a forum about it. One sleeping pill doesn’t put you in a coma.

It's only 10.30! What time do you think is a lie in?? If I'm having a lie in, I sleep til 11am!!

YABVU

Could you treat him and put some sausages into a pan, on a low heat to gently start cooking?
Something that takes a few seconds to do, but will save him 20 mins on his cooking?
No this is not a handmaiden thing, just a way to make show love.
I have just done this for my DD who is in the shower

So how would his ‘not being too happy about it’ manifest itself? Would he be angry/aggressive? I’m still a bit concerned that what would be for most of us a non-event caused you to think so much

@Mooloolabababy

My dh would literally sleep until lunch time at the weekend unless I wake him up! He said it's like a switch for him, because he's so busy all week and he knows he doesn't have to wake up for work then he just sleeps!!

This is me

OP, happy for you that you know he's alive and kicking. It does seem strange that you were so concerned about him/his reaction. It's easy enough to pop your head quietly into the room to see if he's ok.
It's sad that you feel this kind of anxiety over such an ordinary event.
Are you ok?

I have a midday Sunday lay in often.. Was gutted as tomorrow we have a busy day so wouldn't get it. BUT then I remembered its a bank holiday so. Lie in Monday!

@KittytheHare

So how would his ‘not being too happy about it’ manifest itself? Would he be angry/aggressive? I’m still a bit concerned that what would be for most of us a non-event caused you to think so much

Tbf I would be moody. I have 1 lie in. If someone wakes me up to check on me I would not be happy and there would be some ffs thrown around.