To tell them how annoying it is?

[Moon90]

My partner is a big talker when we watch TV, it's got to the point that if I find a program or movie I like, I make sure he's not in or busy doing somthing else so he won't watch it with me as he ruins it by talking all the way through it 😒. I've asked him in the past to wait till it"s over or on the break as I'm Trying to focus on the tv. I'm just sick of having to pause and replay all the time, an hour programme can take near two hours to finish 😂, so after 12 years I've finally told him how annoying it was and that I actually love his fave program but I watch it when he's sleeping as I need the piece to pay attention to it and now he's off on one and telling me I'm being a dck, all I want is an hour or two then he can talk about what we just watched and tell me his opinions then rather than during but apparently I'm a stuck up twt for suggesting such a thing.

I would have killed him ages ago so I don't really have any advice for you, just sympathy.

I have a relative like this but fortunately he only visits me once a week. I dont complain because he does a lot to help me and brinks me cooked meals etc. I just wait til hes gone to watch any programs of interest.

I completely get this OP it's so annoying.Can you watch in a different room? If not it's gotta be a STFU moment.

Moon90
I’ve just LOL 🤭as I’m very similar to your husband as I tend to talk out loud and ask my DP questions about a film while we are watching it together .
He doesn’t mind as much as sometimes he can be very vocal when a film is on.
It’s a difficult one .

Mine does the same but if I say a single word when it's something he wanted to watch I get told to shut up.

God my mum used to do this a lot. It’s infuriating.
The worst was the running critique of female protagonists’ looks. Honestly, Line of Duty would have been: “She’s a bit masculine isn’t she? I think she could make more of herself, she’s got lovely eyes but I think a lot of men would be put off...she never smiles...”

Luckily both me and my eldest DD like to pause things and discuss things as we are watching. My boyfriend doesn't, much and I find watching stuff with him less stimulating. I like that it makes programmes last longer. If it's just general chatter that they do, then that's out of order.

Is it usual for him to talk to you like that? 'Stuck up twat' and a 'dick' plus a tantrum (from an adult man) because you are suggesting you don't exist solely to do what he wants without your own enjoyment isn't good to be honest. I'd struggle to see the humour in it, he sounds like a man child.

I am a tv talker, I've noticed that if its something I actually really like I'd rather watch alone, but love chatting over the tv when it's something random. If it's someone elses favourite programme though or they aren't reciprocating I'd just go and let them enjoy it, and wait to discuss it after. Anything else is unreasonable.

I’m with your DP, there is nothing I could watch on a screen that will be so completely engaging that I have nothing to say for the entire duration.

Neither of you are right or wrong, your way of watching a film or programme is not superior to his, you are just different.

I'm with you - my husband is like this. We don't have rewindable TV and sometimes he'll start talking at a critical moment, or over the punchline of a joke, and it's infuriating because I miss it. I don't watch masses of TV or have it on as background so when I do watch something, it's because I'm really interested in it, and I do like silence so I can concentrate fully.

Do you have a patio and a shovel?

I'm your husband in this situation 😂
I'm awful in line of duty, constantly asking what the acronyms means, who that, do you think he is bent etc.

I better apologise to my DP tonight !

12 years? I'd have really lovely apple tree by now!

& on a serious note - why are you putting up with a man who speaks to you like that.

And a question. Whey did you write them & not him in your title?

I feel your pain OP. I like to watch something properly or have the TV off. I used to consider myself a bit of a film buff. I haven't felt passionate about a movie for years and it makes me sad. He just ruins them for me. He would sit half watching current affairs programmes all evening, every evening. I've started going to my room to read.

I've tried talking to him about it and he says we will choose stuff together, he's not monopolising. Then he keeps talking, if its a crime doc or something I miss all the important information and end up getting annoyed and frustrated. He takes to his phone in a huff. I say "can I just choose what I would like to watch alone if you're going to simply be on your phone?" and he will throw his phone down and be asleep within ten minutes. Every bloody time.

It genuinely makes me dislike living with him. I don't know whether iabu or not.

I recently had a midterm break from school. I told him there were three movies I wanted to see over the two week period, he said fine. Ten days later I hadn't seen one so I told him I wasn't waiting any longer and to choose one. He said fine he would go to bed then (three hours earlier than usual). I put the movie on, he stood talking about going to bed, walking in and out of the room, leaving the doors open, announcing he was going to bed repeatedly.

I actually have tears of rage forming thinking about this. I dunno is it worth it. I'm giving my time up (the most important thing we've got) to spend it in a way I don't enjoy.

Yeah talking over the telly is bloody annoying, but I’d be more concerned that the person who is supposed to love you is calling you names. Is this usual in your relationship?

@Aquamarine1029

I would have killed him ages ago so I don't really have any advice for you, just sympathy.

Me too

My husband does this too sometimes. The worst is when he talks over a key moment in something and then says, 'what just happened?'

I DON'T KNOW, I COULDN'T HEAR IT.

Keep hold of the remote and every time he interrupts, pause the programme and then say ‘have you finished?’ before playing again. My OH soon got the message

“You’re not on Gogglebox, mate, no one gives a shit what you think, put a sock in it.”