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Being bullied by exclusion?

6 replies

Postbox123 · 30/04/2021 21:00

Being bullied by exclusion?

Hi, wondering if I’m being over sensitive here? I work in education, have a lovely colleague I work well with, very fair 50/50 and enjoy each other’s company.
We need to wok closely with another staff member in a different department but often linked. This person excludes me from everything, emails, meetings etc. Even directly emailing and meeting with my colleague about students I work with when this person knows I am already dealing. This person has even had conversations about my students in front of me, excluding me despite my colleague trying to direct the conversation towards me.
All other staff members treat us equally and I am often praised for my work ethic.
I am at the stage where I feel I need to look for another job as I can not continue to feel this way. Can I ask advice on what to do please? I don’t feel I can speak to management as I doubt anything would improve. I’ve overheard many comments from management which are quite negative about this person and their work.
The other person is universally liked by staff (non management) , a real people-pleaser. I am not aware of anything I may have done to upset this person, obviously I would address it if I had. I am always friendly and professional with this person. Any advice would be helpful, thanks

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MrsPinkingtonSmythe · 30/04/2021 21:03

You work in education, you should be in a union. Contact them

Hankunamatata · 30/04/2021 21:38

Does the person you work with not pull them up if they are your student?

Have you emailed the person telling them to include you in anything regarding your specific students? If you have done this and they are still leaving you out of the chain then I would go to.management

Hankunamatata · 30/04/2021 21:40

When you were standing there and they were talking about your students do you not say please could we discuss this as they are my students. You need to get assertive

Advic3Pl3as3 · 30/04/2021 21:43

Talk to the colleague? Ask what the issue is?

Wellpark · 30/04/2021 21:50

Stand up for yourself and say to them that there's issues that must be discussed so you can work effectively.

Brigleylake · 30/04/2021 21:52

Perhaps this person just has a high load of self importance and feels intimidated by the work you’re doing? You need to at least try and speak to management encase it gets worse so they can put it on record. As you’ve said management already have this person on radar so they might be more inclined to act.

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