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TV AIBU - just for fun

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 13:56

Guess the show and/or post your own:

I am a British woman living in the US, where I work as a live-in care assistant. A doctor hired me to look after his invalid father, who’s a bit of a crotchety old man, but very kind underneath. We’re both from working class backgrounds and seem to gel. My boss, and his younger brother, were privately educated and are a bit more ‘rarified’ (into fine wines, opera etc.), but I’ve grown very fond of them too.

After years of being unlucky in love, I’ve met a wonderful man and we’re engaged. I couldn’t have been happier. But I’ve just been hit by a huge bombshell. Whilst under the influence, my boss blurted out that his brother is in love with me and has been for years.

I was too shocked to speak. I’ve always been very fond of him, but never thought of him in a romantic sense. I can’t understand why he never told me - although for years he was trapped in a bad marriage to a high-maintenance, controlling woman who abused him financially. Now he’s free, I’m not. But I can’t stop thinking about him. I’m wondering, is my fiancé really the man for me - or is my boss’s brother the one?

To make things worse, since I got engaged, he’s become involved with someone else - a virtual carbon copy of his awful ex-wife. Whether or not I tell him how I feel, he’s heading for disaster. I can’t even talk to my boss about it as he was so out of it, he doesn’t even remember telling me! What do I do?!

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SageRosemary · 30/04/2021 13:57

Frazier

RealisticSketch · 30/04/2021 13:57

Fraser. Grin

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 13:57

Correct Grin

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RealisticSketch · 30/04/2021 14:10

I work in a hospital (fairly highly qualified) and have crushes on two of my colleagues and don't know who to pick, one would be really bad for me but the other hardly knows I exist. I'm such a clutz and and always getting myself caught in embarrassing situations so I can't bring myself to try to start anything with either of them, think I'm just seen as the hospital joke sometimes, I just want to get noticed in a good way!

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 14:14

I’m a chef in my mid-twenties. Thanks to my grandmother, I have a city centre apartment I could never afford on my own otherwise. I used to share with a friend, but she’s not the tidiest of people and I am quite exacting on that score. We decided we’d have more chance of staying mates if we weren’t flatmates.

The problem is, just as I’ve got to like having my own space, an old friend has asked if she can have the spare room. She just broke off her engagement and her parents are furious, so she wants to get out of their house and start afresh. I feel sorry for her - but I’m not sure I want her living with me.

We were very close at school, but we’ve hardly seen each other in recent years. She didn’t even invite me to the (now cancelled) wedding! Plus, she’s never really stood on her own two feet; she went straight from being daddy’s little girl to being a trophy fiancée. I would have to do a LOT of hand-holding.

WWYD?

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Peanutbutterandbananatoastie · 30/04/2021 14:18

Grey’s anatomy? realistic I haven’t seen it just guessing.

Obvs friends op. I wouldn’t live with Rachel when you put it like that! I wasn’t invited to your wedding- do one. Grin

Mine:

I’m a man who wants to settle down and have kids. I have a friend who I think is perfect for me, but who doesn’t want to settle down.

I have decided to have a string of flings with a bunch of women who I will secretly be comparing unfavourably to her as I have her on a pedestal in my mind. I’m hoping that one day I can marry one of these women, have kids and then my wife will conveniently die once my kids become a bit more independent. Then I can get together with my friend and get everything that I want. Aibu?

SageRosemary · 30/04/2021 14:19

I am a recovering alcoholic and I worked in a busy hospital. I work in admin and HR. I developed a crush on the dreamy surgeon. I married someone else and left but later I returned worked my way up to 2ic and then CEO of the hospital and eventually married the dreamy doctor. I live in an amazing house, once living in an epic pad which turned out to be next door to gangland bosses.

I don't have children of my own but I have several stepchildren/adults including triplets through the dreamy doctor who has spread his seed far and wide. I am a tough cookie in the workplace and run a tight ship but am a good egg and have mentored many people as they develop their career/business. I am a stylish/elegant dresser with beautifully behaved hair. We also have a "batch" if that is the correct term. I am an altruist.

A mistake in my past brought me to a situation where I became very close with a young nurse who blamed me for the break-up of her parents' marriage in another city when I was drinking. We got past this situation but things took a turn for the worse when her father turned up and spiked my drink. I went to rehab but had to leave for my sake and for my family.

I am based in the Southern Hemisphere but enjoy travel and am always coming back from epic trips to Switzerland, Italy, Hawaii, London etc

I know I have to stay away for now but my heart is with the dreamy doctor and I know I will make it back in the future when the hospital will need to be steered through some crisis.

SageRosemary · 30/04/2021 14:21

@StillCoughingandLaughing

Friends, maybe?

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 14:23

[quote SageRosemary]@StillCoughingandLaughing

Friends, maybe?[/quote]
Yes Smile

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 14:23

@Peanutbutterandbananatoastie

Grey’s anatomy? realistic I haven’t seen it just guessing.

Obvs friends op. I wouldn’t live with Rachel when you put it like that! I wasn’t invited to your wedding- do one. Grin

Mine:

I’m a man who wants to settle down and have kids. I have a friend who I think is perfect for me, but who doesn’t want to settle down.

I have decided to have a string of flings with a bunch of women who I will secretly be comparing unfavourably to her as I have her on a pedestal in my mind. I’m hoping that one day I can marry one of these women, have kids and then my wife will conveniently die once my kids become a bit more independent. Then I can get together with my friend and get everything that I want. Aibu?

How I Met Your Mother?
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Peanutbutterandbananatoastie · 30/04/2021 14:24

Yep, Ted was definitely unreasonable IMO.

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 14:49

I am a housewife married to a local government official. I have worked very hard to create an immaculate home for us and feel am highly regarded as a homemaker amongst friends and neighbours. My skills as a hostess are, without wishing to boast, legendary.

The problem is my family. My son is an absolute joy and I’m very proud of him (although there’s no sign of a suitable girl yet). However, my sisters are a different story. I am one of four and, whilst one of my sisters has married very well and is extremely affluent, the other two have made terrible mistakes in life - which reflect badly on me. The elder of the two, though a kind and caring woman, shares none of my home making skills and takes no pride in her environment. She and her lazy slob of a husband live in virtual squalor. They always turn up at the least convenient times; usually swigging on cans of beer and with him spilling out of a dirty vest for all to see.

I did have some hope that my younger sister could still make a good marriage, but she seems to favour short-term flings with highly unsuitable (often married) men. She parades herself in short skirts and low-cut blouses, flirting with any man she sees - including our local vicar - and highly embarrassing me in the process.

Is there any hope for them? Or do I have to spend my life trying to conceal them from my friends and neighbours in ever-more farcical fashion?

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BIoodyStupidJohnson · 30/04/2021 14:52

Keeping Up Appearances! Grin

KFleming · 30/04/2021 14:59

The neighbours next door are quite good friends of ours but the husband has just quit his job and wants to live off their suburban garden. He wants to grow all their food, make their own clothes, and have pigs! AIBU to think this is madness, what will the other neighbours think? What if the pigs escape into my garden? My husband seems to think my concern for this is over the top, however I get the feeling he thinks I’m fairly ridiculous in general.

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 15:00

@KFleming

The neighbours next door are quite good friends of ours but the husband has just quit his job and wants to live off their suburban garden. He wants to grow all their food, make their own clothes, and have pigs! AIBU to think this is madness, what will the other neighbours think? What if the pigs escape into my garden? My husband seems to think my concern for this is over the top, however I get the feeling he thinks I’m fairly ridiculous in general.
Dear Margot - I’m with you, it all sounds frightful!
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KFleming · 30/04/2021 15:02

@RealisticSketch green wing?

Merryoldgoat · 30/04/2021 15:30

MN please help.

I’m a working single mum and just moved to the suburbs with my 15 year old daughter. We moved for a fresh-start after she was expelled from her last school.

We’ve settled in well but I think all the drama is starting again. She seems to be seeing a much older pale man who dresses exclusively in leather. However she’s a real paradox as she spends all her time at school with the 40 year old librarian.

I suspect she’s in a gang or something but I’m not sure what to do.

Also: the librarian is hot - should I shag him if the opportunity arises?

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 15:38

Does she go out at night a lot, by any chance?

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Merryoldgoat · 30/04/2021 15:41

She does!! I think she sneaks out of her window. Her best friend is so nice and studious. I wish she’d be more like her. She’s definitely not going to go off the rails in a few years.

Fyredraca · 30/04/2021 15:50

I'm a Northerner with a wife and kids. I moved down south because my boss wanted me to run things properly for him (he wants more time for getting sloshed and going on dates even though he's married).
Any road, I took up the job but it's very difficult dealing with all the backstabbing in the south and I'd like to just pack up and go home.
The problem is I've found out that the boss's wife is sleeping with someone else and that this person (we'll call him J) is the father of the kids. Not the boss. The proof is they are all blonde.
The kids shouldn't be able to inherit everything, it should be the boss's brother.
What should I do?

KFleming · 30/04/2021 15:56

@Fyredraca I’d keep well out of it, or you might end up losing your head. Head back up north ASAP.

Merryoldgoat · 30/04/2021 15:57

@Fyredraca

Keep your beak out. Getting involved will only lead to more trouble. I mean, it’s not like we’re talking about the kids inheriting the crown or something.

Fyredraca · 30/04/2021 15:59

But....my lofty principles are really telling me to do summat

RealisticSketch · 01/05/2021 08:59

[quote KFleming]@RealisticSketch green wing?[/quote]
Yes! Grin makes me laugh so much, it's comedy heaven for me. Good guess peanut butter

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 01/05/2021 09:20

All my life, I’ve felt second best to my sister. She was slimmer and more attractive; I was the funny fat girl who boys had a laugh with, but never fancied. She married her childhood sweetheart and was blissfully happy; I married a waster and serial cheater. My BIL built up a successful business and bought a luxury home; my husband only worked if BIL threw a bit of casual labour his way, leaving us stuck in a grotty council flat.

Then one day everything changed. It turned out my BIL’s ‘success’ was built entirely on crime - and my useless husband was in it up to his neck. They both got sent to prison. My sister was ready to fall apart - but I felt free.

To stop her going to pieces, I moved in for a bit; although truth be told, it suited me too to leave my dump of a flat behind. A few weeks became a few months, and now a few years. But I’m worried. As far as my sister has come in those years - she’s much more confident, and we even run our own business - she still lives for the day her husband is released. What happens to me then? Am I just supposed to slump back to the ghetto? And if my ex sees his BIL getting ready to go out to a happily waiting wife, I’d he going to expect me to do the same?

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