Do I work full time or stay part time?

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Sorry I’m advance I don’t know if I’m writing in the right place.

I have two DC’s (aged 6 & 9). I have a part time laid back role permanently working from home 9-3, but will be back in the office 1-2 da aha a week in June. My work place has recently been like a school play ground and there is a group of bitchy women there. I recently whistle blew to my manager about the culture in my organisation and it’s all blew up. I named a bully in our team but said this in confidence. He said I was the second person to mention this so he wanted to take it further. He told the woman what I had said and she FaceTimed me to say I had broken all trust and going forward we are colleagues only. This really affected my mental health and we haven’t spoken since (we don’t directly work together). So since this, I have been applying for other jobs. I’ve managed to get myself a job full time, working from home, better money, better prospects..... BUT it’s full time. I would still be able to get my children from school at 3, but I would have to log back in at 4. Unsure what to do for the best. I’m nervous about a new start and I don’t know if it’s the right thing?? Sorry to ramble !

Sounds ideal.
Working from home, better money, better prospects, and still able to pick your dc up from school. What's not to like ?

I went from pt back to ft when my dcs were around that age. Go for it. Get a cleaner, if you can afford it with your higher wages. As your dcs are young, I assume you are relatively young as well. Consider the multiplier effect over the rest of your working life of better pay and pension from ft work and easier promotions.

Leave your bitchy colleagues in your dust.

Your part time role doesn’t sound that part time; you’re talking 1.5hrs a day max more a day? So your kids do lots of after school activities or do you tend (pre COVID) to socialise with other parents after pick up?
You clearly want a new job, will you find another perm from home that will allow you to collect your children?

Take it!!

Go for it! Sounds awful. Boss should not have mentioned your name. The bully should not have contacted you. It isn't going to get better, it is likely to get worse. New job sounds perfect. Get the kids home and settled down with snacks/homework/toys till you finish.

Thank you for responding. It’s a better paid role however it’s a bit more senior. My friends think I shouldn’t take it as At the moment I have an easy job with no stress and I am left to my own devices. My only stress has been is that I told my manager in confidence about a bully and he has has outed me to her. My manager is now trying to push the bully out as he handled it appallingly. I’ve told him I’ve found a new role and I’m unsure what to do because of the whole situation. His response was that this wouldn’t happen again and explained it will be a new dynamic when we are back in the office.

I'd go for the new job.

Things like what the manager has done can never really be undone. And the culture of your current workplace doesnt sound great.

My answer stays the same, regardless of the poor manager situation.
This is about more money, excellent working conditions and more challenge / step up the career ladder.

I mean, if you current job is part of a bigger organisation then your Manager's response ought to be raised with his managers, along with policies in terms of people wanting to raise issues confidentially, so the whole company policy is looked at to prevent it happening again, but I realise not everyone works for a big organisation with all the right structures in place.

However, that was what prompted you to look elsewhere, and now you have found something better for you, so take the job that is better for you now (more money, but still able to collect your dc) and also for you in the future (more senior / better prospects / more challenge)

My manager is now trying to push the bully out as he handled it appallingly. I’ve told him I’ve found a new role and I’m unsure what to do because of the whole situation. His response was that this wouldn’t happen again and explained it will be a new dynamic when we are back in the office.

The bully is still there, I presume. Everything else is promises, if you can believe it. All HR processes take forever and the bully can bring an employment tribunal case.

Not your problem. Too little too late. Leave and heave a sigh of relief.

Take it. You can always ask to reduce hours again once you’ve worked there for a bit (no guarantees though obviously).

I would 100% go for the new job. My parents worked from home (freelance but it was intense). I really valued the fact that they were at home and there when I got home from school etc. It is also good for them to see you work as they get older - it will set a good example for exam revision, homework etc.

Take the new job!!!

Congratulations on escaping.