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Dealing with a negative collegue

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Zig27 · 29/04/2021 19:26

A few years ago I took redundancy from my employer. Recently I have been temping there again so I have some income, while I go to uni one morning a week. I worked in one department for 4 weeks and that was only short term. An ex colleague heard I was back in the office and was desperate for me to come back and kept saying how I knew the system and she would not have to retrain someone. I initially declined but she was quite offended and after thinking about it I thought I can do it for 3 and a half months.

Afterwards she told me she has been covering someone else since July last year. She tried to get temps but claims people would cancel on her at the last minute and say they have got something else or they were unlikeable at the interview. She got someone in for 3 months from September which she claims they didn't enjoy the job and left. I find it hard to believe that everyone is bad and unreliable the way she makes out. Some people in this economic climate want a job. In total she was on her own for 6 out of 9 months.

I did not work closely with her before but would speak to her at lunch. She is impatient and has told me this so can lose her rag at times whereas most people would not get easily frustrated. One or two times she has spoken down to me all because I wanted to clarify a process with her so no mistakes were made. I think it's better to ask then get it wrong, it's not like I expected her to do the work.

I shadowed her once before for an interview with a customer. It was a while back and I had about 30 facts to remember. As the organisation is chaotic and disorganised they don't make user manuals so I had made some notes about these 30 facts she would tell the customer. As she has been doing the job for years she can remember these things. I had partially typed up the notes from shadowing her so I could read through and learn them, though I have not had chance due to how manic it has been and having to prioritise other tasks.

Today we had an interview with a customer and she said I could have a go at interviewing them. I started interviewing them and she jumped in saying she liked the sound of her own voice and that I had missed something. The thing is she never gave me chance to carry on and I felt she was undermining me as though she doesn't believe in me. I said I can type my notes up and learn the 30 facts and she said I don't need to so she is already trying to control me by dictating the way I learn. I have to read things a few times first to learn and she is purposely saying not to. If she thinks I want her job she is welcome to it as I would never want to work there permanently ever again due to the chaos and bitchiness from her and some management.

She also slags off other members of staff for not knowing things. To be fair to them they would not know some processes as there has been a high staff turnover and the organisation never creates user manuals for people to refer to so they would not know unless they had worked there years ago.

It's quite clear she wanted to use me just because I knew how the system and organisation works. What is the best way to not let this negativity affect me? It's only a temp job which I want the money for. it seems like she never moved on as she is still there whereas most people left.

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Wellpark · 29/04/2021 19:39

If you can do it without it affecting your mental health and you need the money then stick it out as it's only a few months. If it truly does your head in well it's not a prison sentence. Jack it in and move on somewhere else. Best of luck

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 29/04/2021 20:17

I've worked with somebody like that. Everybody was baffled as to how they went through multiple staff - some lasted nearly 3 months, most left within one - and two didn't make it to the end of the first week.

It paid the bills.

I polished up my skills in dealing with challenging people (taking long, deep breaths and not ripping her head off and screaming down the gaping chasm FUCK OFF FUCK OFF FUCK OFF )

It went on my CV.

It got me a massive promotion.

It's not personal, it's just a crap place with somebody who is desperate to be indispensable/the living embodiment of the employer's ethos. She obviously thinks that nobody could ever be as good as her (and does everything she can to make sure that they can't learn the job, can't be better at it than her and potentially replace her).

The only thing you need to decide is whether the money you get from it is enough to make it worth enduring until something better comes along.

vodkaredbullgirl · 29/04/2021 20:20

Not having much luck with collegues lately are you?

Zig27 · 29/04/2021 22:27

Thank you @Wellpark and @NeverDropYourMoonCup your helpful advice. I will focus on my promising future and she can stay behind in her bitterness and not progressing in life.

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 30/04/2021 08:20

I would be tempted to tell her. She asked for you back and she needs you. Next time she kicks off for no reason, calmly reply, ‘You know how every temp you’ve ever had has left? This is why. Not because they’re lazy, or incompetent, or unlikeable - THIS. Think about why you’ve been on your own for six out of nine months’. If she threatens to sack you, tell her she can do that, but to be prepared for the same result with your replacement.

If she’s got any sense, she’ll realise that she can’t go to her boss this time and blame ‘another useless temp’ when she has to ask for a replacement - because she specifically asked for you. It makes her look bad if you walk.

Zig27 · 30/04/2021 09:20

@StillCoughingandLaughing Thanks for your input. I should be assertive and stand up for myself. She doesn’t realise the company don’t care about her as they didn’t bother to get someone else in for 6 months so she was on her own. She has probably made it difficult for them before so they thought it isn’t worth the hassle. She knows she would be stuck without me as she had stress being on her own. Some people get too big for their boots. She has difficulties with a lot of people. She gets on with a new manager at work which most people don't like the new manager as he is rude but he is just like her!

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