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Anyone else quiet at work

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Sweetaddiction88 · 29/04/2021 14:22

Been in a new job for 2 weeks, I've always been someone who keeps myself to myself and is quiet. The staff are really nice and friendly, just a lot more outgoing than I am.
They've picked up on me being quiet and shy, saying stuff like "Give it a few more weeks and you'll be crazy like us". Which I know is not a bad thing to say but it shows they think I'm quiet.

Im polite and friendly with them but I like to sit alone and read, go on my phone etc. During my breaks, whereas they always have lunch together and chat all day long.

Im not sure if I'll fit in. Sometimes there are just 2 of us on shift and I try to make more conversation, but i always worry that the other person is bored and whatnot.

It may also be because I'm newer and they've all been there years, do you think I should stick it out or try to find something less social?

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FakeTanandProsecco · 29/04/2021 14:32

Two weeks is still early days, give it time. I'm also quiet and find it hard in a group of people who are very outgoing. You might find your place within the group. Just because you are quiet doesn't mean you can't work with people, you just need a role/set up that suits your personality.

I work within a small team now and find it suits me really well. I have grown in confidence and love it. I work in healthcare and some ward environments just made me really anxious and stressed, mainly the ones with big personalities and we'll established staff.

Sweetaddiction88 · 29/04/2021 14:33

In previous jobs I've seen a mix of personalities and it's never been an issue being quiet, but here it's a smaller team and they are all very similar to one another.

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Sweetaddiction88 · 29/04/2021 14:35

Yeah you're right it's still early days. Feel like all I do is say yeah and smile and laugh, nothing to contribute.

Hopefully I will grow in confidence, sometimes just feels like being back at school again and I bet they're all thinking, why's she so quiet.

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memberofthewedding · 29/04/2021 14:36

Its a place of work, not a social club. When there are just two of you its not your responsibility to entertain your co worker. You should be getting on with the job and not just chatting.

Sweetaddiction88 · 29/04/2021 14:38

We do get on with the job but it's a care role in which people have to work in teams all the time, it's hard to avoid people.

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