Do I need a Private Detective?

[KnowlWay]

Found out names and rough location of birth parents. Don’t want to cause trouble and probably don’t even want to meet them but really want to know their addresses. How could I do this?

Could you look on the electoral roll?

Can you do it 192.com and electoral roll?

Assuming UK the electoral roll is a good idea.

Can only see up to mid 2000s but thanks for suggestions

Can I ask what you are hoping to gain by having their addresses if you don't wish to contact them?

I don’t mean my comment to come across as nasty but how will having their addresses help you?

No. What you need is to get some support about this. Contact your post adoption support in your council.
It could be devastating for you - you really need to not go into this on your own.

I know someone who found their birth family through a PD. It took a lot of work, and found out some unsavoury things about one side of the family. Not entirely sure if it gave the closure they were looking for, even making a connection often won't be a natural one.

I'm not adopted, but one of my parents were. I know they had conflict about wanting to know where they came from, but didn't want to hurt their adoptive parents whilst they were still alive. Unfortunately, they passed away themselves a few years after my grandparents, and never had the opportunity. I'm doing my own family tree hunt/DNA tests for answers but that's because I don't even have names to start with!

Facebook, 192, Ancestry.com may all be ways of looking without making actual contact. Good luck, hope you find the answers you need.

You'd honestly be better posting this on the adoption board - you'll get a lot more support there than on aibu

I’ve been in touch with local Social Services - they don’t really support anything as it’s from v early 70s when legislation was different.
Good sensible questions. I wasn’t born where I live but electoral records show they lived about five miles away in different directions. I might write to them. I’m interested in breast cancer family history. I’m curious about what they look like. I wouldn’t want them to know my address so guess I’m answering my own questions sorry.

The Salvation Army are very good at supporting people in finding long-lost relatives.

Thanks Picak, I always feel the Adoption board is more relevant for current adoptive parents.
Interesting about the SA hadn’t realised. Thank you.

@KnowlWay totally understand there is things you want to know medical history etc I only asked how having their addresses would help you if you didn’t want to contact them but seeing your update I can see you do want questions answered.
Please make sure you get support as these things are difficult for everyone involved. Good luck

I would look into a private investigator, yes. It wasn't for this reason, but I hired a private investigator to dig into the background of a family member. They confirmed my suspicions (in this case, that they had a history of child sexual offences). Best 100 quid I've ever spent. It wasn't a nice thing to find out, but it took a lot of pressure off me and meant I could deal with the fallout and make the best decisions for my family that I could. Getting addresses would be a surprisingly easy job and I imagine they'd be able to come back to you really quickly. I got everything I needed in about 24 hours.