To think fun doesn't stop when you are middle aged?

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DP and I are in our fifties and pre covid were out and about every weekend doing something new. Parties, gigs, events, hotels, mini breaks etc. So many people ask us if we don't just fancy a quiet weekend here or there almost like we are expected to just stop having fun as soon as we hit 40!
Aibu to say that this is a stupid view and that life is for living whatever your age?

Doesn't sound that unusual, but certainly not the life of a teenager. Mine certainly doesn't have mini breaks or come on Mumsnet to check her lifestyle is ok!

Not sure what you want from this? You have a lifestyle you enjoy, great for you. That's not available to everyone, young kids and demanding jobs are tiring, not everyone has that amount of disposable income and not everyone is an extrovert who enjoys meeting new people all the time and that's fine too, it's not a diss on your life. Live and let live?

YANBU at all. I'm only 30 but I do all of this, I'm a single parent on minimum wage so not "financially privileged" and I take DS a lot of the time too! I had him young so when I'm 40 he will be grown so I plan on living the non child friendly life then!

We are like this. But all our friendship circle is, and all our kids (in their twenties) always go out their way to try and join us. I’ve never had anyone say do you think you should have a quiet life.

I work from home which I’m usually happy about, it was my request, but during lock down it’s been hard as I haven’t had our social life to break it up.

I hope so, there seems to be an attitude that the fun stops when you have kids, pressure to make the most of your 20s. Well I spent my 20s having kids and building a career, I'm going to be kid free and financially laughing in my 40s so I'm gearing myself up for several decades of fun.

It's great to do what you want to do, no one else needs to comment on whether it is 'fun' or not ... personally I've never been to a gig in my life (am over 60) and so your idea of 'fun' isn't mine but I am perfectly content with my life. So long as you are happy what does it matter?

I have a friend that sounds a bit like you, she needs to fill every minute of her life with 'activities' and meeting people ... that makes her happy but if she has a free half day she gets incredibly anxious and desperate to fill her time. I am perfectly happy completely on my own (without DH ) - I am very content with my lifestyle.

Who has criticised your choices? I find it difficult to believe that anyone else cares what you do in your free time. I wouldn't comment on how my friends spend their time - horses for courses.

I don't think its that unusual.I know an ex colleague who is 70 who pre covid was never at home.Gigs,mini breaks,pub,walks,you name it she was there.