To think it's out if order to like everything I post after breaking up with me

[GeekyGirl42]

My ex broke up with me because she "likes me less than I like her" - probably true.

I told her that hurt but I respect her decision. And to give me some space for now, after she mentioned being friends.

20 minutes later, a text saying "I hope this isn't goodbye"

And now she likes everything I post on Instagram, (and I'm one of those irritating people who cross post to Facebook so parents can see it,) and she's now started liking the same stuff on Facebook.

Plus if I say anything in the groups we are both in on Facebook, she likes that too.

I makes me stupidly angry. I'm not ready to block her yet, and I could do with a social media break anyway, so I've just Uninstalled all the apps and blocked all the websites from my phone.

AIBU for being angry that she does this and wanting to tell her to knock it off / just blocking her?

It's absurd that you haven't blocked this twat. She's fucking you about, getting off on it, and you're allowing her to. Stop feeding the troll.

To be honest if you've kept her as a friend on these things then I don't think she's really done anything wrong.

If you don't like her liking/seeing your stuff then delete her as a friend and make your pages private?
You've said you're not ready to block her yet but have instead deleted all your SM and blocked the apps? So essentially blocked her anyway, surely it would have made more sense to just block her/delete her?

Sorry, I'm genuinely not meaning that in an insensitive way but it sounds like you've made a mountain out of a molehill a little and made things difficult for yourself, almost like cutting off your nose to spite your face

I'm sorry you're going through this.
I get it regarding not being ready to block her yet. With my ex I deleted him from my social media after couple of months. It felt so good, but I was ready. I hope you'll be ready soon.

Why are you spending so much time on social media;,and wasting time bothering about this other person.,, set yourself free !

Why do you need to stop using social media because of this? Just block her, the relationship has ended, she obviously isn't that bothered about how any of it has affected you and is trying to leap back into being friends without even considering your feelings.

In any case I'm sure she has other friends, you don't need to indulge her unreasonable expectations and give her the attention she clearly wants. Equally you don't need to agree to things. Be assertive - " sorry but I don't want to remain friends" " please stop contacting me" etc

Just move on from her, OP, or it will drag on and cause you unnecessary grief for no real reason other than you aren't prepared to assert yourself.

Get off social media. Change your settings so she is restricted to what she can see on facebook/remove her and set your account to private.

If you are sharing your content with her then she's doing nothing wrong commenting/responding to it. If you don't want her to interact then you have to do something to control it.

It's completely in your power to delete her. So yabu for not just doing that instead of complaining about it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Put her on restricted profile or add her to your acquaintance list. You don't have to block her.

This is about her feelings of guilt and not wanting to be the bad guy, as you are such a nice guy. She is playing you - go grey rock.

A lot of growing up is needed on both sides here - mainly yours, I think. She wants to be all pals like nothing’s happened; you want some weird set of rules where you can be friends, but she can’t like a social media post (as a friend would), although you don’t want to block her... how is she meant to know when she is and isn’t meant to engage?

Accept it’s over, block her and move on.

Do you have a mutual friend who could tell her “I’m sure you’re just meaning to send the message that you still like OP as a person and would want to keep their friendship, but actually OP is still feeling a bit raw after the breakup and finds it upsetting to constantly see your name when they log on. So please either stop doing that for a while or don’t take it personally when OP blocks you”

Or send them a DM yourself saying that.

Grow up, block her and move on? I don't understand why in one breath the situation is making you stupidly angry but at the same time you don't want to get rid. She's screwing with your head here & I don't get why you have to leave social media because of her? You're just creating more of a problem by letting her be a part of your social media.

I would just block her. Even just temporarily.

Just block her on all social media and your phone. I'm sorry to be harsh but you both sound like you like the drama.

Take a social media break unless you are getting a lot of support from there. If you are try restricting your posts so she can't see them. You need some space from her, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that - you need to move on and as she recognised she couldn't return the depth of your feelings she should be giving you some space. But as she's not being thoughtful enough you need to carve it out for yourself. She probably things she's being friendly, but it's making you feel maybe haunted or unable to be angry at her?

I'd let her know you're open to being friends in the future, but only if you are! Right now though you need to take a break, reflect and move on. Any friend would respect that too.

Block her. Trust me. The sooner you stop seeing your ex everywhere (both online and IRL), the sooner you stop caring about them. Keeping an ex on SM just prolongs the torment. Speaking from experience here.