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Home after 5 weeks in mental hospital...

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Chocolateraisons93 · 27/04/2021 18:47

So I'm home after 5 long long weeks in a mental hospital.

It was my first time and I really didn't no what to expect but the whole experience was... just.... stressful...

Off course women on the ward were really unwell and some were quiet aggressive but majority were lovely to speak to...

The staff some were lovely and some were straight out patronising and just rude. I had a male member of staff lock me in my bedroom (me not realising it can lock from the inside) left me frantically trying to unlock it as it basically got jammed and I couldn't unlock it. I pressed my alarm and staff came running asking what was wrong and I told them male staffed locked my door and walked off...
He then came back looked me dead in my eye and acted like he had no clue what I was talking about... pure evil.

So anyways the reason for my post is I basically got a hold of my assessment report, probably shouldn't of read it but its done now...

I don't disagree with there diagnosis but there were some things that was said that was not true such as me being rude to staff... which was 1 incident and I wasn't rude I was putting my foot down because I was being denied pain relief despite there acknowledgement of my medical history.

I want to rectify these allegations... I have taken it personal because its not true.

Should I let it go or should I ask If I can change it.?

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nimbuscloud · 27/04/2021 18:50

Do you have a medical team who are supporting you at home now? Might they be able to help you ?

KizzyMoo · 27/04/2021 19:05

Hope you are feeling better OP. Challenge it if you disagree and complain about the rude staff. It could be stressful though so do it when you feel ready, if you want to. I got told by a medical professional I was given something during lockdown and must have lost it so I asked to see my notes about this as I never got given anything. Then she starts back tracking and said it possibly went missing and they will send another. More like it wasn't sent. Annoying!

Everym · 27/04/2021 19:45

Glad you are home now but hope you have adequate support in community.

You can contact the hospitals Pals service (patient advice and liaison) and ask to be put in contact with who can make amendments/notes to your medical records. The record/detail you are unhappy with will not be able to be removed entirely, but it is possible for a note to be put alongside what you disagree with with a reason why.

If hosp are obtuse or say they are unable to facilitate this, say you’d like to make a formal complaint. You have 12 months from the time the note was made to formally complain, if I were you, I’d wait a while and focus on your health rather than dredging up the negative experiences of the hospital stay when you’ve just got out. Focus on being well. Good luck

aibutohavethisusername · 27/04/2021 20:24

Hi @Chocolateraisons93 glad to hear that you’re home now. I’ve been inpatient twice. On a mixed ward and it felt like years. Even though it was about 6 weeks I think.

What were you diagnosed with? I have BPD which is quite common with those in patient.

I’d agree with contacting PALS. Good luck.

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Chocolateraisons93 · 27/04/2021 20:24

@nimbuscloud i believe I'm waiting to be put on the list for psychotherapy. I have chosen to go private with this and so has asked to be discharged from there services because of time frame. I need help now not in 4-8 weeks.

@KizzyMoo I am feeling a little better thank you. I agree I no it would be stressful.

@Everym Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it. I think I am going to take this action when I'm feeling a lot better. I just don't want my character assassinated... someone will judge me reading me file and therefore judge me on it. Especially on my mental health...

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RaskolnikovsGarret · 27/04/2021 20:27

I know nurses are over stretched, but my 12 days in an NHS hospital left me more unwell than when I arrived. My diagnosis was severe depression following a suicide attempt, and anorexia. I lost a stone in that time.

Some nurses were lovely, but others were beyond cruel. Can you suffer PTSD after a stay in a psych hospital? I think I did.

Sympathies to you OP.

CyberNan · 27/04/2021 20:32

its absolutely your right to challenge anything you don't agree with, but make sure you do it appropriately and do not present as overly emotional or unreasonable.

mental health professionals are constantly observing you... anything you do slightly out of the ordinary is going to be recorded and could add to your diagnosis

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Chocolateraisons93 · 27/04/2021 20:50

@RaskolnikovsGarret im sorry to hear about your experience. I believe you can suffer PTSD.

@CyberNan yes thanks for the air of caution... do it appropriately. You're absolutely right. Unfortunately my diagnosis is of a controversial one. I have been diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder quasipsychosis features and disassociation..... due to complex PTSD
It sucks so bad.. I feel that this diagnosis alone has put me in a terrible position to start with. I'm not someone who lashes out or aggressive. I internalise alot of my problems. I hope I get better.

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aibutohavethisusername · 27/04/2021 20:54

@Chocolateraisons93 you can absolutely get better. I have BPD and I had intense therapy and the psychotherapists have said I no longer fit the diagnosis criteria.

Are you prescribed any medications? I’m on citalopram (anti depressant) and aripiprazole. (Anti psychotic).

Cryalot2 · 27/04/2021 21:05

I just want to wish you well . It is bad enough being ill without help and understanding as well as basic good manners shown to you.
Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and kindness and should get the help they need. Sadly I know this does not happen.

CombatBarbie · 27/04/2021 21:09

This type of post just annoys me, what happened to respecting dignity, being empathetic etc. That place sounds like it's got staff from the mental institutions in the 1950s!!

I do hope you get the proper care you need soon.

Onesnowynight · 27/04/2021 21:38

I’m so sorry you went through this OP. You should have never been treated in such a way. I would suggest leaving it a few weeks until you are a little more settled then decided if you want to pursue a change.
Having a serious mental health problem sucks, I have bipolar. I haven’t been an inpatient, but am aware it’s always a possibility.

Good luck on your road to recovery. Remember it’s one small step at a time!

MamaWeasel · 27/04/2021 21:49

I have bipolar and borderline personality disorder, and have been an inpatient once. It was the most stressful time. So stressful. They routinely locked me in at night, yet the door was left unlocked during the day so other patients went in while I was in the communal area and rifled through my things. I can't offer advice, just wanted to second what others have said about recovering first. And yes, I believe you can have PTSD after an instay. Xxx

Thatsmycuppa · 02/05/2021 15:16

It must have been really scary for you op. As far as I know you can have a note written on the report that you disagree with this. Not sure of they would change the whole thing unless you wish to complain. I internalise a lot too. I had a very weird experience when I was in the hospital briefly but then I was too weak so simply concentrated on getting better at that time. Don't worry too much about labels, this in itself can be quite traumatic. You sound lovely by the way. Wishing you the best.

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