AIBU to hold off on potty training even though daycare is trying?

[UpToMyElbowsInDiapers]

DC2 is 25 months old. I successfully potty trained DC1 at 27 months in just 3 days, and planned to do this same with DC2 at the same age when the weather is nice. I’m expecting a baby (DC3) in the next 2 weeks (!) and know it will be a big adjustment for the whole family. I have no interest in potty training DC2 this week.

BUUUUUT... it just so happens that 4 kids in his daycare class are potty training right now. His teacher told us yesterday that she just brought him along each time the other kids were going, and he managed every single pee of the day in the toilet!!! I was shocked, amazed, thrilled, overjoyed... but oh man, I’m not sure I have it in me to keep this up at home the next few weeks.

YABU - daycare is doing half the work for you; having peers potty training at the same time will make this 10x easier now than in two months. He’s obviously ready. Suck it up, buttercup, time to potty train this kid!

YANBU - he’ll likely regress when the baby is born in the next couple of weeks anyway. Do you want to be putting this pressure on him now and mopping pee off the floor with a newborn? Don’t bother now, let daycare do whatever they want but at home he’s a diaper guy until the summer.

You do you and feel no guilt. It's easier to toilet train in the summer months anyway, fewer layers of clothing means fewer accidents, imho 💐

Let daycare do what they want and wait until summer and you’ve got in the swing of things with three

See how he goes? If he's done every wee so far on the potty then there's no extra work involved? Just make sure the potty is accessible at home and remind him. If it doesn't work then no harm done. Be easier than doing it with a baby. No judgement I just think it'll be easier for you in the long run

I can definitely see both sides of the argument, could you give it a shot with say 1/2 week time limit. If he gets it sussed in the next week or two before baby arrives, your done and dusted, one less in nappies. If he’s still having accidents by the time baby arrives. Back to full time nappies and try again in the summer?

Middle ground? Put him in pull ups and encourage him to use the potty. If he stays dry, move to pants and if not, it’s as easy to change as a nappy.

Maybe make a potty available at home but no pressure.

I wouldn't want to attempt it at home if I was due soon. In my experience if I try to make changes/advances like that when other big changes are happening (I have 3 DC and have moved house, new preschool and had dc3 in the last 12months) they become an unnecessary battle ground and it doesn't work. Try a month or 2 later and it's fine.

Thanks for the inputs! I like the idea of keeping it low pressure for half a week or so and see how he does. No harm in trying, and if it doesn’t go well, I won’t hesitate to put the diapers back on for another 2-3 months until the summer!

Just roll with it. No pressure, just tell him you’re going for a wee and take him with you. If he gets it great - you’ll only have one In nappies. If he doesn’t wait til the summer

Whatever you decide, I’m SO jealous! DS1 is 29 months and I’ve tried but just don’t think he’s ready. We’ve had precisely zero wees in the potty ever, despite hours (in total, not at a time!) spent on there. And I’m due twins in a few weeks

We did the pull up thing with our youngest, was really easy. Mine are close in age so the youngest was wearing pull ups young and could use the potty if she wanted and did sometimes. So when I told her a few months later we were going to pants it was totally fine. I'd do that approach!

I’d let daycare do what they want but keep nappies at home.

I’m strongly of the view that a newly toilet trained child is way more work and hassle than one in nappies. You don’t need that with a newborn.

I’d probably switch him to pull ups and encourage the process, but not actively potty train him. So remind him at convenient times for you, and of course encourage if he is voluntarily using the potty by himself, but don’t stress about it or put pressure on him over it.

And yes I agree, a freshly potty trained toddler is significantly more work than one still in nappies. You don’t need that right now