To ask if the pandemic and lockdown has changed anyone else’s attitude and personality?

[GoldenLabbie]

I’m trying to work out this is a ‘thing’ or not.

Over the last year or so I feel as though I’ve been on a bit of a rollercoaster, as most of us have I suppose with a mixture of highs and lows. But one major thing I seem to have taken from it is a complete change of attitude towards pretty much of every corner of my life. I used to be such a people pleaser and peace keeper, but now all of a sudden have become really intolerant of other people’s poor treatment of me. It’s almost like a switch has been flicked and I’ve become really outspoken, in particular at work. The company I work for is very money obsessed and often unethical, with a flimsy attitude towards the truth. I can see me having a blow up with them over that and their treatment of us. I’ve been thinking about just walking away from it all and doing something completely different altogether but don’t know what? In fact I’m getting annoyed at all sorts of minor injustices I read and hear about. I’m also becoming irritated with my family, and in particular my Mum and her whinging and relentless negativity when so many other people have lost so much!

Before all of this though I was happily plodding my way along through life.

So is this a thing?

I've been blunter at work than I would normally be. Trying to reel it in a bit, as it's not a great time to be job-hunting...

Yeah ‘blunter’ is exactly the way I’d describe it! It’s as though I’ve lost my filter and I just say it like it is.

I've been feeling a lot less tolerant of inconsiderate behaviour and a lot less patient lately, I thought I was just getting grumpy with age but maybe it's pandemic stress/lockdown fatigue.

Yup. I've been at the receiving end too, and so have colleagues. I do think it's a thing.

Mine has changed but not for the better.

I've worked throughout and have seen a different side to my employer and have discovered that employees are basically disposable minions to ensure that the money keeps rolling in. I've also developed huge social and health anxieties where there were none before and have had a few manic meltdowns as a result.

I'm a natural introvert so having my family at home all the time has been a maybe struggle for me and my fuse is definitely shorter than it was!

Actually yes. I just couldn't tolerate my utterly incompetent manger any longer and left my job. I have a brilliant employer now so it worked out well for me.

Definitely had similar where I worked, though I've since changed jobs. I realised just how much unnecessary stress my job was putting on me/workmates and another opportunity came up so I jumped at it.

I think it's also made me take some time to slow down, in a positive way. I'm definitely making more effort to not overload myself with things to do and to allow it to take as long as it needs (one benefit of delays due to covid is me seeing its ok to take more time)

@GoldenLabbie 100% you have just described me!
I used to not think about things too much ... a good night out was enough to forget
But at home you’re trapped with your feelings... no amount of distraction /walks in the SAME place can replace the diverse sensory input of going to the office

I’m less of a people pleaser in the lockdown mood - now that people respond quite well I like the new me and am keeping it 😌

Mine has got worse. I feel alot of anger, anxiety and sadness.
Work is a major problem and I'm hitting the buffers with the sheer fuckwittage exhibited by my management team. I am expressing it as well, not with blue language. I'm just fuming and I'm on the verge of jacking. It's a low level, pt finance job, zero support. Manager knows 0 about finance.
I don't want sex. Mr does. It's causing issues but I'm fucked if I comply.
Teen identity crisis.
Sadness over kids jumping into rivers, or local 10 year old killing themselves.
I despair about everything really.

I worked in an ICU Covid Red Zone for 12 months and although my secondment has ended and I'm back to the day job I feel a mixture of emotions and lasting impressions. I don't have nightmares altho many of my colleagues do , especially the young ones, but I do suffer flashbacks and still get very tired. Headaches too. And nose bleeds. The shared experience and bond I have formed with colleagues has fundementally changed my outlook and my life. I can't get worked up over everyday stuff that seems to makes others so shitty.

I work differently now. I spend more time talking to the patients and checking the junior nurses in my care are OK. We need them all if we are to ctach-up. I seem to be more aware on my rounds. Everything is in shape focus but I'm not the same person I was. I've lost colleagues and I feel like I've been in a war.