To ask if you would find it odd if someone

[Beatinghearts]

Said they cared my about their friends than their siblings?

Of course that’s not odd. You can’t choose your family and frankly I wish I weren’t related to some of mine.

Not at all! You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family!

I’d find it odd that anyone thought it was weird. Sure, some people are incredibly close to their siblings, but it’s hardly a given, is it?

No

I care what happens to my brother because of the affect it has on my parents happiness not really because I care that much about them. I care what happens to my friends because I care about them.

No of course not, as everyone is saying some family relationships can be toxic. And even if not, it can be your friends who are there dor you, not your siblings.

Well. That settles my worry for having an only child. Clearly they don’t need a sibling!

Neither of my siblings have spoken to me or each other for years . I don't even know where they live . But I would go to the ends of time for my friends. You can't choose your family.

Yes, that would be unthinkable to me. But I'm very close to my siblings.

@chloeb8

No. Family relationships can be odd.

This.

@baffledcoconut

Well. That settles my worry for having an only child. Clearly they don’t need a sibling!

No they don't

You choose your friends, not your family.

I haven’t spoken to my Brother in over a year, have spoken to both my sisters recently (saw one of them last week due to health issues)

Meanwhile, today i saw one of my friends for the first time since July. I didn’t want the hug to finish.

No. I am an only child but neither of my parents nor my dh get on with their siblings and I would say all are closer to their friends than their siblings.

No. This is why I am happy with just 1 child.

No.

That’s not how I feel about my siblings but it’s not exactly hard to imagine how others have that experience.

No. I adore my DB but hardly speak to sister. My best friend, and indeed quite a few friends, come higher up my list than she does.

No

I think if anything, I'd be most curious as to their reasons for saying it at all / how they said it? Depending on the context of course.

I have a fair few friends who definitely care about their friends more than siblings because, as others have said, families can be weird.

Personally, my two brothers are such a blessing and are easily two of my favourite people in the world. But we had a happy childhood growing up together, and as adults we have each others backs and always will. I don't know if this is the result of parental conditioning or if it's how we would always have turned out, but I have many friends for whom this isn't the case, and I'd say those friends would be the ones most likely to die for one of their pals!

Absolutely not. My best friends are the light of my life (after my children and DH) and I trust them implicitly as they do with me.

We’d stand by each other through everything (well unless it was a crime etc) and we’re always there at the end of the phone. I’d be lost without them. They certainly add value to my life.

One of my siblings is a selfish, jealous prick who adds zero value to my life. It’s a shame but iI can’t associate with people like them.... so I don’t. I don’t miss them and they add nothing to my life.

So of course I care more about my friends it’s a no brainier

I’m the youngest of four and haven’t spoken to my ‘siblings’ in about 4 years. Believe me they would be the last people I would go to for anything. My friends are my family. I wouldn’t think it weird AT ALL, but perhaps that’s just based on my own experiences.

Frankly I care more about the bloke at number 23 than I do my sister and she has more than earnt that response from me. If its any consolation I am absolutely sure she feels the same way about me so she's not hurt by my dislike.

I would hold it more against someone for getting judgy over familial relationships when they haven't lived with that particular one. If there is not enough empathy to understand that some family relationships are not healthy and its ok not to care about those , then honestly I wouldn't care about the judge either.

No
Families are weird

My friends are my family.. So no. Absolutely not.

Blood isn't always thicker than water. Though that said there is oftentimes a story behind it. I tend to think for someone to really not love their siblings means something huge must have happened.

Nope, blood isn't always thicker than water. I'm closer to my friends than siblings, although I wouldn't say I "cared" less. Maybe the person hasn't phrased their thoughts very well.