Feel like my newborn prefers his dad

[BingRed]

I know I'm being silly as ds is only going to be a month old on Sunday but I feel like his dad is his favourite. As when it's just me and son he constantly cries when he's awake but when partners here and holding him he doesn't cry at all unless he's hungry etc. And it's the same at night, ds kept crying the other night and wouldn't settle at all, when I was holding him he'd just cry even though he'd been fed and was clean etc but when partner held him he eventually settled and went to sleep in his arms.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong as I'm not doing anything different to what partner does.

Has anyone felt like this before?

I think maybe Dad's are sometimes less stressed about a crying baby-especially if they haven't had it all day, and baby picks up on that.

Are you breastfeeding? My 5 month old won’t settle for me as she can smell the milk and always wants more! It may just be that

Also please don’t take it to heart . Your baby adores you both I’m sure , it’s just difficult not to read into things when you are tired

Yes! All the time. Still happens now at 6m. No words of wisdom just sympathy and support

Ah yes. Magic Dad. Absolutely infuriating.

It evens out OP but it’s an utter pain whilst it’s going on.

I think it’s the milk smell! My baby had a while of giving more smiles to her dad.

Then she went right off him for a bit which was worse as he couldn’t hold her and I was knackered! 😂

I’m guessing you are breastfeeding....

I think when they are this young they don’t even see mum as a separate person but as an extension of themselves. All my children have settled better for their dad in the early days. It soon changes though.

Agreeing with everyone else. Plus I think babies like to yell with mum because they can. Mum is kind of taken for granted, everyone else needs to be charmed. My baby smiled at her Dad loads before she smiled at me. I was so jealous!

At a month old he is barely conscious. He is just an eating pooping machine. He has barely any awareness of himself or others so don't take it personally. He can smell your milk probably.

My DD was the same. Still a bit like it now at 6m. She will be fine but with her dad, when I walk in she instantly starts crying. I cant hold her without her having a little whine. She is breast fed and cant settle on me unless I'm feeding her! Perfectly normal, he just wants sympathy from you. I think they do pick up on nervous engery too if your thinking about it a lot x

When my dd was tiny there was a period when it really did seem she cried whenever I held her and stopped when it was DH or my mum. I remember getting quite upset about it.

She's about to turn 16 so I don't really remember how it turned out, but I don't think it lasted long!

@Dramstam

I think when they are this young they don’t even see mum as a separate person but as an extension of themselves. All my children have settled better for their dad in the early days. It soon changes though.

This.

Also, Dad is different and interesting and she needs to be quiet to concentrate on finding out about him. She doesn’t need to do that with you as she already knows.