Aibu to want another child!

[Malbals]

So we though our family was done ,we have both sex children and I’m 40 soon , I feel it’s my last chance! Dh has agreed that he would ,but I’m wondering if the gap of over 5 years youngest and 12 oldest would be too much? Unfair? And if my age makes it risky? I am aware it may not happen and wondering if anyone has any success stories or advice on having a bigger age gap, older pregnancy and multiple labours!! Will my body survive!!

My oldest dd is 15 next month I had her at 26. Number 2 is 10 soon I had her at 32. I'm now 42 and number three should be here in October.

If you want a baby have one. Don't ignore yourself or talk yourself out of it, it's not unreasonable it's perfectly natural.

Sorry 16 next month

It’s your hormones!!

There's 8 years between me and my sister. We are very close! I remember lots about her early years.

We felt like this about our 3rd, should we go for it?
We did, and that child is an utter ray of sunshine

I think the gap would be ok but what about other questions - do you have the home space, the finances, would you be happy to go through the baby stage again? Etc

I'm 35 had my third baby last year the age gaps between baby and siblings is 10 and 12 years they absolutely adore her 💗 if its what you both want go for it .

The important part is getting yourself in the best shape possible. Not dieting, but exercise and healthy eating. You'll have to do that through the pre/primary school years. I'm a younger Nan and had to get myself in shape to be hands on.

I had an age gap of ten years. My eldest and my middle one are really close. My eldest took her Sister and a mate to thier first proper concert/festival/Amsterdam trip etc. My middle and youngest, 18 months between them, aren't as close.

It might not happen. You might miscarry. So that might be tough.

5 years gap isn’t too bad, but 12 years is pretty much a generational gap. I’m 9 years older than my sibling and we’re not that close. I know others with an even larger gap and they barely speak. I’m closer to my sibling that’s only a year younger than me.

Ok thanks! I guess problems are a concern like if the new baby was disabled or mentally disabled with learning disabilities etc I think I read that older parents are 50% more likely to have this happen? And that pre eclampsia and other pregnancy issues are higher risk of happening too
Oh and is blood clot? I guess I’m a worrier and I don’t want to risk anything to my lovely family I already have! Thanks for the reply from you all

What do you hope to get from a third child that you're not getting from the two you already have?

What will a third child being to your already existing children?

More time? More resources?

This happens so often (and is posted most days!) but it’s your body freaking out because you are at the end of your fertile years. You have to think about your children, not just a new baby.