...to not want to visit PILs?

[VaxDilemma]

MIL and PIL believe that covid has been massively exaggerated, didn't go for their vaccinations and attended the London protests at the weekend. They are in their early seventies and have health issues - MIL has had two heart attacks and PIL is overweight. MIL suffers from anxiety and depression, and has panic attacks if her views on covid are challenged in any way.

I only found out yesterday that they haven't had their vaccinations. I am now reluctant to take DD (almost a year old) to see them, due to the risk she poses to them from being at nursery and the risk they pose to DD/us by being at the protests along with thousands of unmasked people.

However, I am extremely worried about the impact of not seeing DD on MIL's mental health. She'll take it very badly.

My gut instinct is to keep my child safe. But I don't want to hurt MIL. AIBU to stop visiting?

I honestly don't know what to do

I wouldn’t want to hang out with the twats that went to that protest either. At the very least give them two weeks to show any signs of Covid they may very well have picked up there.

DH would be completely supportive, @Feedingthebirds1 - he's absolutely baffled and dismayed by how irresponsible they're being. Also very worried about them.

Okay, this has crystallised in my mind that it's a two-week wait to see them, and then it needs to be outdoors. Thank you, everyone.

If they are going to ridicule you. I wouldn't go at all. They sound horrible, ignorant and manipulative. You don't owe them anything and they are endangering you with their actions.

They're actually not horrible - just very narrow-minded in that they rigidly believe what they believe, will only read and absorb information that reinforces whatever they've already decided, and ignore anything that doesn't fit with their view of the world.

I find them extremely difficult and hard work at the best of times, never mind right now - but they're DD's and DH's family so I want to maintain a good relationship.