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AIBU - odd neighbour behaviour

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Lesssaideasymended · 25/04/2021 23:27

This is something I witnessed a few years ago but has sat uneasy with me since. I don’t know what to think. It certainly struck me as odd. What would you lift from it?

(This is an Irish wake by the way, as believe they are quite different to everywhere else, perhaps to give a better insight of the set up)

I was at a very tragic wake of a young child, a lot of very obvious grieving and to-ing and for-ing between rooms etc. Groups of people chatting quietly away in rooms. A young sibling (about 4) of the child was running about, naturally not really understanding what was going on. The young girl slipped and fell in front of me, hitting her head. Before I had a chance to react a man scooped her up and sat her on his knee, comforting her.

I didn’t know this man, so assumed he was an uncle from the other side of her family. Didn’t think twice about it until another woman I never met before, stood beside this man, glaring at him angrily. He immediately lifted the girl off his knee and explained that he only picked her up because she had fell and hurt herself.

The bone of contention definitely seemed to be over the young girl sitting on his knee. It later transpired that these people are neighbours. There were 2 other people chatting in the room so they didn't hear what happened.

YABU - nothing unusual in that
YANBU - yes that's definitely strange

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CharlieSocial · 25/04/2021 23:31

Wtf?

Pinpointer · 25/04/2021 23:34

Would it have stuck with you had it been a female comforting the girl?

therocinante · 25/04/2021 23:37

What? That's not remotely suspicious and I'm not sure what it being a wake or it being Irish has to do with it - at any big event with friends/family around I'd hope that someone would pick up and comfort a little kid who'd hurt themselves.

Lesssaideasymended · 25/04/2021 23:38

@Pinpointer yes, it wasn’t the fact he scooped her up. It was the interaction between the adults after that made me question it. I thought it odd he had to justify it. It did also cross my mind that the woman may have been “jealous” - for the want of a better term.

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Lesssaideasymended · 25/04/2021 23:40

Sorry I haven’t made myself clear - it wasn’t the fact that he comforted the girl at all, I didn’t think of that. It was the interaction between the 2 adults afterwards that was odd

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therocinante · 25/04/2021 23:45

@Lesssaideasymended

Sorry I haven’t made myself clear - it wasn’t the fact that he comforted the girl at all, I didn’t think of that. It was the interaction between the 2 adults afterwards that was odd
Ahhh okay. I'd assume there was bad feeling among them, to be honest! There often is between neighbours.

Or that the mum had a particular reason to be wary (bad experience, anxiety - not concerns about the neighbour specifically).

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