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Am I too sensitive for social media comments?

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LipstickLou · 25/04/2021 15:38

I recently re-joined mumsnet as I have a very small Facebook page of just a few family members and friends. I don't do Twitter but I do help a closed specialist Facebook page and website. In the 5 years I have been a member I have only had one hurtful comment regarding my opinion. On two threads I have posted on mumsnet I have been called a liar. Why? I wouldn't dream of making such a comment. Perhaps I am naïve and should not let it bother me. Naturally I have had some excellent advice which was what I was searching for outside my own sphere of contacts. Just me?

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Loveistheonlyway · 25/04/2021 15:40

Mnet can be very harsh. Try not to let it get to you, the people making the comments are neither here nor there in your everyday life

WorraLiberty · 25/04/2021 15:41

On two threads I have posted on mumsnet I have been called a liar. Why? I wouldn't dream of making such a comment.

Only you can answer that question as you haven't expanded on it.

But if you're still brooding about one person commenting on your opinion on Facebook, then I'd say yes you probably are too sensitive for social media.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 25/04/2021 15:45

Did you post in AIBU?

Try Chat. It's far less combative.

You'll get used to AIBU if you stick around. It has its own charms.

KarensChoppyBob · 25/04/2021 15:45

Maybe you've just been unlucky OP? I've been here for a very long time and have never called anyone a liar.

What was the context?

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 25/04/2021 15:50

I honestly think it depends on your wording and who happens to stumble upon that particular thread. I got called a dick the other day which made me wonder if I was. I really reflected and decided no Im not. Just because someone says something online doesnt mean its true. It might be someones opinion of you but so what. So I shrugged and went on my merry way. If youre still thinking about it then you probably should stay awsy from so.me.

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LipstickLou · 25/04/2021 16:05

I did post on aibu. I'll try chat. Thank you. I had some really helpful family advice a few weeks ago.

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 25/04/2021 16:34

It really depends how they said it. If it was ‘This all sounds a bit Hmm’ or similar, then yes, you’re being over-sensitive. Does it really matter a bunch of strangers don’t believe you?

If, on the other hand, they called you lying scum and threatened to hunt you down and make you pay, that’s probably a bit much.

Crankley · 25/04/2021 16:42

I voted Leave for Brexit and since then have been called from thick as pigshit to racist and everything in between on here. I'm also a Tory voter so have been called a few choice names for that.

It's like water off a duck's back because I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of me and nor should you.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/04/2021 16:46

It’s all about developing a rhinoceros skin.

People have their opinions and we all know what they say about opinions.

BackforGood · 25/04/2021 16:47

Did they actually call you a liar ?
Because any personal attacks can be reported very, very easily, with a button on ever post.
I have to say I've been on MN virtually since it's inception and have never ever been called a liar, so as others have said, a bit of context might help what you've put.

However, if you are brooding over what a stranger on the internet says, some time after the moment has passed, then quite possibly, posting on the internet to ask the opinion of strangers might not be for you, no.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 25/04/2021 17:00

If you really care that much and actually get upset by the comments, which are small in numbers and not even that bad ... then yes, you are too sensitive.

Why do you care about what a complete stranger that you never met and never will, who could be lying about themselves or anything really?

User5485421134 · 25/04/2021 17:11

Some more context is needed, although I think this happens a lot on MN when people start extrapolating personal experience/anecdotes as fact (eg all GPs are shit or AZ is safe because the 3 people I know who had it didn't get blood clots) or making blanket statements on things that are impossible to quantify (eg. 100K is a high salary).

Some people just like being smart arses so they will nitpick on tiny wording details to make themselves feel superior. Others have a lot of inner unhappiness they need to channel into something so you often get disproportionately rage filled posts that don't really have anything to do with the topic in question.

Would just ignore and move on.

On a side note, there is a thing called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria that's common in people with (sometimes undiagnosed) ADHD/ADD. This involves extreme negative emotions and endless brooding over rejection or criticism.

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LipstickLou · 25/04/2021 18:15

@Crankley

I voted Leave for Brexit and since then have been called from thick as pigshit to racist and everything in between on here. I'm also a Tory voter so have been called a few choice names for that.

It's like water off a duck's back because I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of me and nor should you.

Now you are funny. Ditto a lot of your points- Liberal though. I have a BAME husband who cannot vote Tory and a true blue son! I am a sensitive soul but I had a fabulous mother who was a fuck or or die lady. Wouldn't need mumsnet if she was still around.
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LipstickLou · 25/04/2021 18:23

@User5485421134

Some more context is needed, although I think this happens a lot on MN when people start extrapolating personal experience/anecdotes as fact (eg all GPs are shit or AZ is safe because the 3 people I know who had it didn't get blood clots) or making blanket statements on things that are impossible to quantify (eg. 100K is a high salary).

Some people just like being smart arses so they will nitpick on tiny wording details to make themselves feel superior. Others have a lot of inner unhappiness they need to channel into something so you often get disproportionately rage filled posts that don't really have anything to do with the topic in question.

Would just ignore and move on.

On a side note, there is a thing called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria that's common in people with (sometimes undiagnosed) ADHD/ADD. This involves extreme negative emotions and endless brooding over rejection or criticism.

Interesting . I have a special needs child and my late mother was bi polar. I am usually fine and coach people with confidence issues but having been ill with a poorly child and a terminally ill brother, life has been a bit shite. I think the rage filled is appropriate. If I said my salary they would lynch me so I don't! Thank you, a good intelligent answer.
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notagainmummy · 26/04/2021 11:37

MN loves to be judgemental and argumentative. Not everyone of course, but quite a few

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