Please list regular chores your children are responsible for.

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Mine:
Drying up
Strip their bed
Put their clothes away
Tidy living room.
Help prepare dinner
In addition sometimes:

Hoover,
Put shopping away
Tidy drawers/cupboards
Gardening jobs

Jesus why don't you all just put your children down a coal mine and have done with it 🤬

Mainly tidying up after themselves - putting their toys, craft mess etc away. Putting their laundry in the laundry basket. They help do laundry/clean/empty the dishwasher/make dinner sometimes but as an ad hoc learning experience not a regular delegated responsibility.

They’re early primary ages. I don’t particularly want them to do regular “chores” - they’ll learn soon enough.

Mine are 7,5 and 4.
7 pours kids drinks at meal times and helps with condiments.

5 is awesome at folding so folds kids clothes.

4 is often responsible for putting teddies in the correct room. (Honestly we have so many bloody unicorns now I don't know which is which!)

At breakfast 7 and 5 can spread their own bagels and help 4.

After dinner all of them are instructed to tidy the playroom and ensure their bedrooms are tidy before bedtime. They take their own washing up. 7 and 5 put it away. 4 tries but usually just puts it all in one drawer 😂

7 gets their toothbrushes down and does the toothpaste in the morning and at bedtime. 5 helps 4 put pjs on. If they need help I'm always there, but I like to encourage them to help each other and work as a team.

We did try including laundry into the list. 7 was keen. But then I ended up buying three whole new sets of school shirts after they were accidentally turned pink so.. few more years

I don't ask them to make their beds yet. 7 has a mid-sleeper and wouldn't be able to reach properly. 5 tries and does a reasonable job and often goes in to try to do 7 and 4's too 😂

Keep bedroom tidy
Put their clean underwear away
Tidy up any mess they make
Put dirty clothes in wash bin
Deal with their used sanitary wear ( this was a big issue as they thought it was ok to leave used anywhere they felt like) .
Empty dishwasher on weekends and when asked in sch holidays
Make drinks at dinner when asked
Take dirty dishes etc to kitchen

I know some of these are basic. Even so need reminding constantly for all.

Nothing, I expect them to keep their rooms clean and tidy and stay on top of homework. Plenty of time for housework when they are adults living independently. Until then, I want them to have as much care free time as possible.

Dd15. Clean her room, do all her laundry, makes her own meal often and makes enough for me too if I'm there, unpacks shopping. Mainly quite independent but not really doing cleaning in the rest of the house.

Set table
Clear table
Hoover bedroom
Dust bedroom
Put clothes away after washing
Help clean pets
Help with gardening

@Germolenequeen

Jesus why don't you all just put your children down a coal mine and have done with it 🤬

I often do say to mine that his options in previous centuries would have been up a chimney or dobbing paint on ceramics. Truly he feels he has a better deal now. I dont feel bad - I am a single parent and running a household is hard work. The more he learns now the better.

Mine are young adults now and have never had chores apart from keeping on to of the chaos which is their bedrooms.

Having said that they do unload and load the dishwasher, clean the bathroom, sweep up and do a few loads of laundry if they see the basket over flowing and cook the dinner without being told to .

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Nothing, I expect them to keep their rooms clean and tidy and stay on top of homework. Plenty of time for housework when they are adults living independently. Until then, I want them to have as much care free time as possible.

I totally agree. I did no chores or housework growing up yet I can do them since I became an adult (debatable!)

My children are 9-16 years old. They're all expected to wash up anything they use for breakfast or snacks, bring their dirty laundry in the basket & put their laundry away, and help tidy up at the end of the day. The youngest still calls it a 'twenty tidy' as I used to put on a timer so they felt there was an end, but now it's more just everyone dashes about while whoever is on dish washing duty does their tasks. It doesn't take much time.

We also have a lunch rota where they take turns making lunch for all their siblings and me. They set that up years ago, though I had to set up a rota to keep it balanced.

The 11-16 year olds have a rota of cleaning up the dinner dishes.

They do other stuff as well, sometimes helping with tasks adults are typically doing, but it's not part of their regular chores. They tend to like being helpful, some days more than others, and usually more if everyone is taking part in helping and they're asked.

We ask 8yo to tidy toys, clear their plates, put dirty washing in laundry basket and clean washing away in drawers, help with dishwasher and wiping table.

We ask 5yo to do the same - but they don't. They might clear a plate on a good day...

13 yo does

• laundry Mon to Fri for household, including stripping and remaking beds (with assistance to life heavy mattresses) including folding - which she does well
• keeping her own room tidy and clean - which she does poorly most of the time but it's her room so I struggle to get too worried
• cooking once per week for the family, which she does well
• gets own breakfast and makes own school lunch, and sorts school bag

,- cleans/polishes shoes

• when not cooking, helping to clear table, wash dishes and wipe surfaces- does well
• empties dishwasher and puts away about 4 times per week - does well usually but always a few things end up in the wrong spot
• on an ad hoc basis as requested will also vacuum, garden, spot clean walls, clean car etc, usually with some whining

8 yo - sorts her own schoolbag, gets her own breakfast and tidies afterwards, puts own clothes away, puts dirty clothes in hamper, tidies room, makes bed, clears table after dinner, fetches and carries a bit (eg gets things for me), tidies and puts away in main areas of house, empties dishwasher, polishes school shoes

I've one friend who did no chores/jobs at home. Her mum had been expected to do loads when she was child and wanted her daughter to avoid it. My friend says she was very ill-prepared for adult life and it was hard to learn everything later. She now gets her kids to help so they have a head start!

Don't people find that when they have structured jobs for the dcs that they too have to be extremely structured to set an example?
I'm very much a do it when it needs doing person. Sometimes I like to just not bother with something that day and do it the next.
My dcs can do things, and I think that's important.
They are teens and they'll just take it upon themselves every so often to do something if they see it needs doing.
Bit they have a lot of work and this is the time of their lives to explore who they are and that's a lot to fit in.
I think its good to learn to be able to identify when something needs doing but I also think they need rest and balance.

We have allocated certain jobs to our children but expect them to help with other things when asked to.

Such as, empty dishwasher, keep room tidy, make their bed, gather laundry, feed and clean animals, strip bed, take out bins or recycling, set table. At the weekend they will help with dusting and hoovering.

They are nine and ten.

If mine are happy playing outside or inside I don’t bother them with Chores (well apart from set the table and help dry up after).
If they are at a loose end they help out with the house, I would rather that than hours of screen time plus they receive a feeling of accomplishment and team work (plus I get to spend more time with them if everyone pitches in)

Tidy up their toys (usually not very well)

Oops posted too soon.

Mine are still young so they just “help” to put their toys away, but we usually spend the first 15 minutes of every day after they’re asleep tidying their toys anyway as they’re always everywhere I won’t be giving them chores to do as they grow up though, I don’t agree that young children should be doing all those things and would rather they enjoy those short precious years playing, relaxing and learning without about household things. I never did chores growing up and am a fully functioning adult now. They definitely know how to do things though, for example they enjoy “helping” (they’re not really much help haha) with cooking, washing up etc but they enjoy joining in as a game really and choose if/ when they want to.

DD5 doesn't have set chores but is very keen to help with certain things. She'll help put shopping away (mainly so she can keep an eye out for goodies ) and she's very keen to wash up so when there are bits that aren't overly dirty I'll ask her to do them. She also enjoys helping to cook tea. We'll soon start responsibility for making her bed, she tidies her bedroom pretty well, usually once a week.

Emptying dishwasher
Taking out recycling
Washing up after Sunday dinner
walking the dogs
Keeping their rooms tidy
Changing their beds

They're 12 and 14.

Depends on the age, mine has to clean the top floor of the house (3 storey building) including bathroom, stripping her bed etc. Does own laundry and is meant to cook twice a week but this is hot or miss. She's "resting" aka unemployed

One's 18, so it's less chores than than asking her to behave as a functional member of the household, and get a handle on keeping things civilized before she moves into houseshare next year, because I am not going to turn up and clean it for her like my friend's mam used to do.

DSD 18:
Keep her room in dad-approved state of tidiness.
Clean up after herself when she's made food.
Scrub hair dye off the bathroom when she does her hair.
Puts the bins out collection day.
Does her own washing (although this is because DH washed and tumble dried her wool school blazer when she was 12 and when we'd finished screaming she decided to do her own because I was working away most of the week and he clearly could not be trusted)
She also does the floors/dishwasher/kitchen clean up at random intervals.

DS 22months:
Tidy-up-time when we're finished with blocks/crayons/etc.
Putting his pajamas in his laundry basket.

I mean, he's not even two, not flinging food is the main priority at the minute.

Nothing here, other than keeping their rooms tidy and putting dirty washing in the baskets and cleans clothes away.

They are 8 and 9. When they’re a bit older I’ll probably start asking them to do chores around the house. At the moment it’s just the odd help here and therewhdn they want too. DS likes dusting and vacuuming, and DD likes helping prepare dinner, but I don’t want to turn this into a structured list of chores.

Keep their rooms tidy and maybe empty the dishwasher and that's about it. Oh DS does his Cadets uniform cos the boss there said Mums and Dads are forbidden from pampering them and doing it for them ha.