AIBU?
Acceptable to turn up half cut?
Jambutterpeanut · 23/04/2021 23:15
Me and my boyfriend met my friend and her partner for dinner tonight. When I got home he’d met with another friend and had a few drinks and seemed quite drunk - he’s a lightweight! I felt irritated to be honest and just think it don’t look great turning up for dinner already drunk. In general he was joining in conversation but other times looking sulky/made a few sarcy comments towards me and even had his eyes closed at one point! Am I being unreasonable? I’ve stopped drinking and don’t know if I am.
Am I being unreasonable?
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Ileflottante · 24/04/2021 07:04
My H did this once. It’s really shit as you don’t enjoy your night out because you’re worried about him wrecking it, being rude, and you spend the whole time trying to make up for it to the people you’re with. In my case, he began being rude to the waiter, who I had known from school. He was an embarrassment.
MaMaD1990 · 24/04/2021 07:12
If it was just the once I'd be eye rolling at him but leave it there. If its a regular occurrence I'd be thoroughly pissed off. If he wasn't treating you nicely at dinner though, I'd be having a word about how you expect to be treated, even when he is drunk it's not acceptable to make you feel uncomfortable.
GhostCurry · 24/04/2021 07:17
@Ileflottante
I hate this feeling. As part of “the couple”, you feel responsible for the actions of the other, even though you have zero control over it. It’s awful.
Ileflottante · 24/04/2021 07:20
I hate this feeling. As part of “the couple”, you feel responsible for the actions of the other, even though you have zero control over it. It’s awful.
Exactly. I was exhausted enough trying to buffer him against the couple we were with, then I had to do it for the poor waiter, too. He was a disgrace that night. It was very out of character but that didn’t make it ok.
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