Acceptable to turn up half cut?

[Jambutterpeanut]

Me and my boyfriend met my friend and her partner for dinner tonight. When I got home he’d met with another friend and had a few drinks and seemed quite drunk - he’s a lightweight! I felt irritated to be honest and just think it don’t look great turning up for dinner already drunk. In general he was joining in conversation but other times looking sulky/made a few sarcy comments towards me and even had his eyes closed at one point! Am I being unreasonable? I’ve stopped drinking and don’t know if I am.

I’m confused-he was drunk when you got home after dinner? Or before you went out to dinner?

Before we went out for dinner that is sorry for confusion!

I really thought this was going to be a thread about a cheeky client at the hairdressers

A bit annoying but not worth making an issue out of it

My H did this once. It’s really shit as you don’t enjoy your night out because you’re worried about him wrecking it, being rude, and you spend the whole time trying to make up for it to the people you’re with. In my case, he began being rude to the waiter, who I had known from school. He was an embarrassment.

Doing it once by mistake is annoying but forgivable, I would be a lot more concerned if it became a habit,

If it was just the once I'd be eye rolling at him but leave it there. If its a regular occurrence I'd be thoroughly pissed off. If he wasn't treating you nicely at dinner though, I'd be having a word about how you expect to be treated, even when he is drunk it's not acceptable to make you feel uncomfortable.

@Ileflottante

My H did this once. It’s really shit as you don’t enjoy your night out because you’re worried about him wrecking it, being rude, and you spend the whole time trying to make up for it to the people you’re with. In my case, he began being rude to the waiter, who I had known from school. He was an embarrassment.

I hate this feeling. As part of “the couple”, you feel responsible for the actions of the other, even though you have zero control over it. It’s awful.

Yeah I'd be pissed off, especially if going out to dinner with friends isn't something you do very often. Theres no need to get pissed up before he should have arranged to have drinks with his mate another time

I hate this feeling. As part of “the couple”, you feel responsible for the actions of the other, even though you have zero control over it. It’s awful.

Exactly. I was exhausted enough trying to buffer him against the couple we were with, then I had to do it for the poor waiter, too. He was a disgrace that night. It was very out of character but that didn’t make it ok.

I’ve said YANBU, but I suppose if he’s really apologetic this morning then I’d write it off as a on-off. Maybe.

Making sarky comments was very rude. Is he often unpleasant to you when drunk?

I would be unimpressed.

Has he met your friends before?

Id be annoyed at this. Its happened to me before. A one off is forgivable I suppose. I hope he apologises to them not you.

Yanbu, and well within your rights to have a word with him. He may not have realised how drunk he was. I’ve done similar to be honest- thought people wouldn’t notice I’d already had a few, but of course they did. It’s not great form.

Agree with PPs. Rude to you and the couple you met - sounds like he wasn’t good company.