To expect to have at least been told sorry ,but no thank you.

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Went to see a lovely family for a part time nanny job last week. Just an informal chat ,but felt the vibes were good and had a great time playing with the little girl.Mum asked if i would be free to start this week and just saw all what she was saying as positive and that they wanted me to take care of their children .
Mum said she would run it by her husband at the weekend and get back to me. Nothing , no contact at all.
Could she not at least ring me or an email would be fine. I don't mind that she has changed her mind but at least don't be so rude as not to even tell me .

You're quite right - very rude of her. Would you want to work for someone like that though?

Very rude. I'd ring her so as to make her feel guilty!

Mind you, she doesn't seem to have basic manners, so you're probably better off not working for her anyway.

YANBU - you probably feeling a bit in limbo. Have you tried contacting her?

Maybe things have gotten a bit chaotic and she's forgotten? I'd get back in touch politely.

Just give her a ring, and a chance to explain why she hasn't contacted you. Could be her dh digging his heels in if she seemed ok. Then at least you can get back to looking if she has changed her mind.

Maybe she lost your number? Ring her

I know there could be a hundred reasons why she hasn't called ,but when she was so keen last week it just seemed a bit odd.
I will call later ,but just suprised that there has been no contact ; prehaps i wasn't what she was looking for and was just very good at pretending . Shame really as i was looking forward to working for them.

Did you ring her?

I think Lazarou has a good point - her DH may well have not been quite up to speed with what she is planning, or how much it costs etc etc. They may have had big row, she's sulking, lots of other things happening and time does fly by. But YANBU because she should have rung you to explain where things sit.

I wouldn't get too uptight about it - my DH and I are hopeless at organising ourselves. We were supposed to be whittlign down au-pair applicaitons this weekend ourselves but DH ended up at work all day Sunday; these kind of things happen when there's two working parents.

Saying that, we had one woman who was after a cleaning job and she was all over us - three texts a day even though we had told her we would call her back on X date in the future. We decided not to give her the job solely because of this - we couldn't have coped with someone stressing all the time because of our chaotic lifestyle.

I would send her a text saying that you are still keen on role. She will either text straight back or not; if not then you will know for sure the job has gone.

Thanks everyone, Mum called me today , you were right ,dad is the one holding off . He wants her to see somebody else so she can compare the two of us. She said that when i left the little girl was asking after me and that sold it for her. She has said that she would call me back at the weekend. I just needed to know , am busy looking for this kind of work(part time ,odd days) and if it isnt going to work out, i would rather be told, then i can keep to be looking somewhere else. Thanks again.