Do you have a loyalty to your hairdresser?

[MirandaMarple]

The last couple of times I've been to my hairdresser I've not been happy with my hair (she doesn't know it yet) She has acknowledged that there is an issue and has, on both occasions, given me tips on how to correct it at home and they haven't worked.

She works from home and I've gone to her for 17 years. I'd consider her a friend.

I am at the point now where I'm going to raise it with her (I know I should have done it the first time) but I'm simply a bit worried I'll upset her and feel I have a loyalty to her.
Also, I know that she'd want to know and have the chance to fix it.

My other issue is I have moved further away (1 hour round trip) and it would be in my interest to use a more local hairdresser. It would be cost more (+50%, she's cheap!) but I could walk to it and it would take up less time etc.

If I tell her the truth and she corrects the issue I would feel I have a duty to stay with her.

AIBU to not tell her the truth and play on the fact it's better to find someone nearer to home?

Fully aware I'm over thinking it.

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Hell yes. Been going to him for about 12 years.

I only ly have loyalty to my hairdresser as she does a good job and I'm happy with my hair afterwards. If I wasn't happy with it then why would I keep going back?

I wouldn't raise the issue with her if she is a friend. The friendship might not survive.

You now have the perfect excuse that you are now an hour a way and it is not convenient to have your hair done with her. Don't tell her in advance though. That would make an issue of it. Just mention in passing, after having your hair done elsewhere, that you got it done elsewhere because of convenience.

I did and followed her when she moved salons. Unfortunately I don't like the salon owner so I moved to a different one. I didn't say anything about not liking him and just said I needed to save money (the new one is a lot cheaper) which is definitely true!

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Just tell her you are going somewhere local as you don't have the time etc. She's not providing you a good service. You've had problems more than once. There's a chance she knows you won't go anywhere else and takes your custom for granted which is why she isn't providing the service you want and deserve. A good hairdresser would provide more than just tops on how you can sort out her shortcomings yourself at home. Go somewhere else miranda!

You are right. Thank you.

When you say she's a friend, do you actually have any contact with her between appointments? Do you socialise? Because you clearly don't live in the same area as her now so what would happen if you just didn't call to make an appointment? It's unlikely you're going to run into her. Would she call you?

I think it's fair enough to say that the travel is too much and you're going local. I'd be doing that even if I was happy with my hairdresser, let alone if I wasn't!

I don't think I've ever felt any loyalty to a hairdresser as my hair looks the same whoever cuts it! It's thick and bushy and always looks shit, plus it has one lazy owner so I just go to whoever's free/cheapest.

These replies are very interesting to me therefore - different world!

My mobile HD has also done two poor cuts on mine post lockdown. A very strange short cut that never lay right and now I look like Edmund Blackadder, short fringe, overly short bulbous sides. Its all very well saying it will grow, but it does really damage your self esteem particularly when your family laugh. The reason I have hung on is because I absolutely hate salons.

Tbh, it is not a nice experience. He is very panicky about lockdown rules, fussing about using one towel only and is very stressed which in turn makes me anxious. He won't blow dry either and I think he wants to continue with this when lock down ends because he is not keen on this. To me that is part of the experience and I think you need to check hair when it is dry to ensure you haven't missed anything.

I know I need to move on but I find salons intimidating.