Am I being a bad person?

[cheerrr]

Hello my mum died in September last year.
She was buried in the same plot as my grandmother.
I already had a gravestone that was my grans and I just wanted my mums name engraving.

I was told they would have to remove stone for burial and then put it back in 6 months after ground settled.
Altogether for adding my mums name on plus removing stone for burial and putting it back £700.

I have been suffering badly with my mental health and now claiming universal credit.
I paid the £350 deposit.
I now owe £350 to be paid by Friday.
My universal credit payment is just over £400
So I would have £50 for a month.
My electric /gas is £80
Plus I need food and other bills.

I've tried calling the stone mason who has said no payment plans.
It has to be paid in full by Friday.

Do I pay it in full Friday ?
Or shall I pay it next month if I put half away from this months UC
And the other half next months UC

I feel shit asking this but would this make my mum disappointed in me if she's watching over me?
Do I just ignore the calls by stone people till next month when I pay it ?

Never, not member.

@EarringsandLipstick

Headstones need to be removed to allow the grave to be opened up and the burial to take place, it can’t be done with the stone in place as that is normally placed on the actual grave at the head, and if left there is not enough room to dig the grave for the coffin, plus it will get damaged

They need need to let the Earth settle then for six months before it’s replaced

Op I would ask if you can pay next month

[quote Chloemol]@EarringsandLipstick

Headstones need to be removed to allow the grave to be opened up and the burial to take place, it can’t be done with the stone in place as that is normally placed on the actual grave at the head, and if left there is not enough room to dig the grave for the coffin, plus it will get damaged

They need need to let the Earth settle then for six months before it’s replaced

Op I would ask if you can pay next month[/quote]
Thanks Chloe

I guess there are different arrangements in different areas.

It has never happened in any of the places where my relatives were buried.

So it's not a given.

Sorry to cause confusion OP.

I think you can only talk to the company and explain the situation. Surely they will have some compassion?

that is normally placed on the actual grave at the head,

I just saw this line now.

That would explain it. I can't imagine practices are that different in Ireland to UK?

Certainly in Ireland, the headstone is not on the actual grave. It's at the top, set away from where the person is interred.

It doesn't need to be removed.