I am not too sure if I am overthinking this or right to be annoyed or it’s stirred up feelings I ne Ed knew I had.
My ex and myself stayed friends. Texted weekly and met up for coffee maybe once a month. This pattern maintained during covid. We both had partners but became single around Xmas.
From then we ended up bubbling together as the rest of out friends had bubbled with others. During January lockdown we would met few times a week, him popping to mine (live 25 miles away, but he works in my area) and texting many times daily. We seemed to have fallen into dating pattern without intimacy. We stayed over and shared a bed, as we only live in one bed flats.
March he had a life event happen and ended up off work sick we it’s depression and out in meds. He came to mine lots, never to his as he said he wanted out of his house. Constant texts. It was as if I was his emotional crutch. Happy to help as that’s what friends do.
6 weeks later, he only sees me once a week on my day off, or unless he is visiting my town. Previous he would of been at mine everyday. Fair dues he was struggling, but he is my bubble, we signed up to be company. We still stay over share a bed as it’s nice to have Human contact and hugs. There is no intimacy. Both not interested.
Now lockdown has reduced, he is seeing friends more and Me less. Understand that this will happen as I am seeing friends more, but he is never free, except on my day off now or doesn’t want to do the round trip. Previously he wouldn’t of minded it. I have offered to come to his, but always tired now. Said his made make him tired in the evening - joked I made him stay up late one night a week. It’s as if he is now off work for a few months he has made a rota.
I asked him if he wanted to stay over the other night as normal routine, so we could get up early and go somewhere. He responded see how I feel. He has said as he is off work he needs to get out to see people and keep himself busy. I work mostly at home in a very busy job with long hours.
He said was meeting up the day before with a female friend for food abs may be too tired in the evening, But will come to mine early next day on my day off as planned. Said will see as his meds have given him insomnia and he doesn’t want to wake me up.
For some reason I have become jealous of this girl. I know they were set up on a blind date years ago and it went nowhere. He told me. They have friends in common. But it’s really annoyed me. He was open about her. I joked and said enjoy your date. He replied it’s not a date. We did that and now friends.
On Sunday he said he was bored. I had plans with friends daytime and said he could come round in the evening. He said he didn’t fancy the drive. But then texted me later to say he was in his male friends garden which was 15 mins drive from me. Could see his friend but not me. He said don’t worry I will see you as usual on your day off.
So wise MN. Why am I jealous? Why are we still sharing a bed for spooning snd hugs? Why am I upset he might not be staying over.? Am I getting faded out? I really don’t want a relationship with him, but enjoy his company amd the human contact.
Do I just leave it or continue. When one of us meets someone the sleep overs will stop. I am on dating apps, he always asks about my matches. he is not as he says his depression and life event means he is not interested.