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gen z DD burnout, manager advice, any advice please

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influencernope · 21/04/2021 11:45

aibu to advise dd to stick up for herself or will it get her fired? dd is in her early 20s and has her second job, working in a small section of a large American new media marketing company. she is a high flyer and has been recently promoted 2 grades and now has a junior under her. dd is sparky and forthright. she feels bad as an awful workload is affecting her and this junior too.
The issue is she is has to work really long hours, 7am-9pm is normal. her hair has started to fall out and she is really stressed and tired. the work keeps coming and she says there's a culture of competence and coping. her manager is avoiding her requests for a chat, telling her instead things like that they were going to give her another campaign, but didn't as they knew she had enough. business is growing. they advertised for a new assistant but then offered her 10k less the her current salary so obviously she said no. the issue is that dd doesn't know who to turn to and whether to rock the boat, she feels the expectation is to be grateful to work in media at all.

just wondering if any managers have any insights of what to do? her section doesn't have a proper her dept. thanks in advance

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Am I being unreasonable?


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influencernope · 21/04/2021 11:46

didn't mean to enable voting sorry

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influencernope · 21/04/2021 11:47

sorry her little section doesn't have a proper hr department, I also feel the American owners have brought their work ethic to bear.

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DotBall · 21/04/2021 11:49

Tell her to start looking for other jobs in the sector. She’s young and sounds like she’s got great experience and determination.


user1471462428 · 21/04/2021 11:50

Tell her to do at least a year then get out. These people never change and don’t want to listen. If she starts looking for other work then gets out she’ll feel better


CutieBear · 21/04/2021 12:08

Your DD needs a new job. If her hair is falling out then the stress of her job is damaging her health.


influencernope · 21/04/2021 12:08

at the moment she's looking via headhunters and doesn't have time/energy to update her CV to the standard she wpuld like

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DIshedUp · 21/04/2021 12:11

She needs to find a new job with a company that shows her more respect. It sounds like she's good at what she does and has experience.

Honestly these companies essentially exploit keen, young, ambitious people. They know full well they are giving too much work but it's part of the arrogance of 'I had to work to get here so my juniors will work too'.


influencernope · 21/04/2021 14:57

yes and managers know the ropes so can do more work faster, take short cuts, hide personal appointments etc

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skirk64 · 21/04/2021 15:23

Bad employers tend not to improve. She'd be better off just leaving it and getting another job. There's not much point talking to the manager about it, the company is unlikely to resolve the real problem (too much work for too few people) because that would cost them more money.

Also, telling your manager you are not able to cope with the job is a sure fire way to get yourself "managed out" of the company. So it's best to take control and leave by yourself.


frifrifri · 21/04/2021 16:24

American companies are notorious for over working their staff. It is a cultural thing.

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