AIBU to miss a Zoom party?

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First post on here! A friend has organised a Zoom birthday party for her DS (3yo) in a few weeks and has invited my 3yo DD. Unfortunately it clashes with her dance class that she’s just started going to and absolutely loves. If it was a face-to-face party, we’d definitely go (thanks Covid!) but I’m wavering as when her toddler group lesson went online in the first lockdown, DD just didn’t engage at all so I think she’d prefer to go dancing. What would you do?

Sounds horrendous, go dancing.

Yanbu and if she’s reasonable she’ll understand.

Say she's not free and go dancing but send a present and suggest a playdate when possible.

I don't see the dilemma ? Your dd has a scheduled class so her time is already committed. Just tell your friends - unless she is the type to think its just a class and you cancel.

Zoom parties are great for adults and older kids, but not for that age. I find it very difficult to sit through chats with my nieces, I can't understand them, my DS can't be understood and its just painful!

No way I'd expect a 3 year old to engage with a zoom 'party' when there's a proper 'real' activity they enjoy at the same time, and anyone who doesn't understand this (ie they're going to make you feel guilty) needs to wise up

As long as you haven’t already said yes, then YANBU to not do the party

Thank you very much for your opinions. DD is my eldest and it’s the first time we’ve had a clash so I wasn’t sure what the done thing is. Thanks again.

You just apologise, thank her for the invite, and say you're sadly not free that day.

I'd probably send a small gift if you are good friends.

Just say your DD isn't free and you'll be fine. Having other plans is OK. Sending a small gift to show that you care is also a good idea.