AIBU to refuse to pay for a shared fence? [Edited by MNHQ at posters request]

[IHTC]

We live in a terraced house where the deeds state we are half responsible for the fencing on both sides of the garden. One our neighbours has said that they can't afford to contribute to the fence and they had always believed they were only responsible for the fencing the other side of their garden.

The fence this side is currently pretty much non existent, with panels missing along the entire stretch.

AIBU to suggest that it simply won't be done as we are not prepared to give them a fence for free?

I should add that my dad is a builder who has offered to install all 16 panels free of charge. The materials would cost about 1k meaning they would get their fence done this side for £500 max. Quite frankly, I don't believe they don't have the money as they have putting in planning to extend by 5m out.

Am I being too harsh? Would you just do the fence?

@IHTC

Thanks all! My husband also said I was being too harsh but just wanted to check. Just rubs me up the wrong way knowing they're probably going to get their fence done for nothing when they should be contributing. It desperately needs doing especially as we have a little tot who will soon be wondering around the garden. Finding it really hard to calm my stubbornness!

It’s here in black and white. You want it done now because of your child. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Zarinea It's a problem for both us and our neighbour. We could easily wait it out and hold off until it does become a problem for them i.e if they ever wanted to move etc.

@playeddepaler They are coming right up to the boundary so it will take out some panels. We thought about waiting but are gardens have basically merged into one with the number of panels that have fallen.

@Timper I want it done because it needs doing and as a side bonus, I have a kid who might like to use the garden some time soon. Not that I have to justify this

seems you're kind of cutting off your nose to spite your face?
Get yourself a fence - just make sure the best side is facing you and they get the 'backside'