To suggest he sleep in another room?

[NeedingAGoodNap]

My dp has had a cough for a few weeks now (not Covid). He coughs a lot at night and keeps waking our 8 month old dd. She’s hard to settle and then is grumpy throughout the day because her sleep is being distributed.

I suggested he pull out the blow up mattress and sleep in the spare room until the cough dies down. He said it’s to uncomfortable and he won’t sleep well (it’s really not that bad as I’ve slept on it before including when I was pregnant).

So I then suggested he help me move the cot to the other room and I will sleep there on the blow up with our dd. Apparently that was also unreasonable.

So am I being unreasonable? Should we all have to suffer through sleepless nights?

Have you got a shed?

@Aprilshowersandhail

Have you got a shed?

Sadly not! We are in an apartment otherwise I would be kicking him out to sleep outside by now to be honest!

Clearly you have to do one or the other. Why should none of you sleep - or does he just sleep through it all...

I would make up the spare room and tell him.he either helps you move the cot before her bedtime tonight or he sleeps in there. No other option.

He's being pretty selfish. For the long term you should get a bed for the spare room though in case of similar issues

Have you got a communal garden? In need of a patio?
Seriously every time he wakes your dc he needs to resettle them. Every time.

I can't sleep well on a blow up mattress so I have a degree of sympathy for him. But your sleep matter too and so does your DD's (though most babies will sleep through everything). You don't need his permission to move the cot and sleep elsewhere though if I were you I'd want to get a proper mattress to sleep on. Does he often not give a shit about anyone else?

As someone with cough variant asthma and frequent bouts of uncontrollable coughing, I fully understand why your DH is grumpy. It's exhausting and horrible having a cough that prevents sleep, so get why he's grumpy.

But when you've offered to sleep elsewhere and he's being awful, that's not great.

Of course! It's selfish that he is still in the room, he should have relocated himself temporarily already - he must know he's waking your baby up.

Uncomfortable? First world problems! He can sleep it off in the spare room until the cough is over.