To feel so upset about this?

[MalfunctioningRobot]

My closest friend, drops me every time she gets into a new relationship.

When she’s single, she will be in contact by phone or text everyday, multiple times a day. As soon as she meets someone new I stop hearing from her. She stops getting in touch with me, when I try to contact her calls/texts are ignored for days.

It’s just happened again and I’m feeling really upset, like I’m only good enough if there’s no one better around. I only matter enough to bother with when there’s nothing better to do.

There are other things going on at the moment which are affecting how I’m feeling, so happy to be told I am being unreasonable! I could really do with a friend and feel upset I can’t talk to her when I need her, but if it was the other way round I’d be there for her.

STOP being so available for her. Seriously, she's a user, not a friend. Use this time to get some distance from her and getting used to not being in your life. I'd cut her loose and tell her why, tbh.

You need to tell her she's being a selfish, shit friend and you're tired of being treated like this.

When it all goes wrong and they break up she’ll come running back but keep her at arms length.

Christ. That's not a friend!

like I’m only good enough if there’s no one better around. I only matter enough to bother with when there’s nothing better to do.

Don't be around !
As an earlier poster said she's using you. Don't be so available find a hobby or go out with other friends. When she comes running back - tough luck!!!

It’s crap - have you pointed out to her how she is behaving.

I would take her out for a drink, tell her how you feel and if she doesn’t sort it out, move on. You aren’t a toy she can pick up when she feels like it.

She’s not your friend. It sounds like a one-way street and she’s absorbing energy you could use to find someone better to be friends with.

I had this for years and after a disagreement with my husband, she blocked me and him two years ago.

Can't say I've missed her in all honesty and friendship probably needed a sharp exit to see for what it was tbh.

Is she 14?

Just not on. Don't put up with it anymore and tell her why.