Birthday cake rant

[Westside1]

I've seen a lot of adds for local bakery and something that appears to be getting common is siblings sharing birthday cakes. I think this is so mean of parents to do, it irritates me. I know they can't have parties now but surely for an event that just happens once a year they should have their own birthday cake. Rant over

I mean for twins maybe if they want.
I would've been fuming if my mum made me share a cake with my brother!!

But maybe I'm extra. I made my daughter two full on cakes for her 1st birthday even tho there was only one guest in addition to me and her dad 😂

Absolutely nothing wrong with sharing a cake. Two of my children are 3 days apart. Close in age and same interests, I’ve always baked joint cakes for them. Last year they got 2 Cuthbert (not to be mistaken for Colin) the caterpillar cakes as there birthdays happened at the beginning of lockdown so that’s all we manage at the time.

I also shared birthdays with my brother as a child and we are 3 weeks apart.

Your being very judgmental as you don’t know everyone’s circumstances. Also a lot of people have been hit hard with covid and may have to stretch themselves just to buy one cake.

My twins have a cake each because they have different interests and requests for cakes (that I make). If one day they say they want the same cake I’d happily make one big one. Age 1 and 3 they had one cake between them. Age 3 was a 2 tier cake though. Dh’s birthday is just after dd1’s so he usually has a home made chocolate dessert like a mousse (although I made him a cake for his 40th). He got me a birthday cheese cake and it was amazing!

Overall, 2 cakes is quite a lot to eat, especially with restrictions on meeting up etc, but families do what works for them so why do you care what others do?

I make cakes and have only done 6 joint cakes in the last 3 years all for twins i normally make a larger cake cut in half and decorate to each child's taste so technically 1 cake but 2 boards 2 designs ect so its not really that common joint parties my ds has been too always had 2 cakes ie each family bringing 1 each

My sister and I are 2 days apart, we never shared a birthday cake growing up and we're both in our 50's now, I don't think I'd have cared tbh but mum wouldn't hear if it.

@Westside1

I've seen a lot of adds for local bakery and something that appears to be getting common is siblings sharing birthday cakes. I think this is so mean of parents to do, it irritates me. I know they can't have parties now but surely for an event that just happens once a year they should have their own birthday cake. Rant over

Mean or poor?

I think it’s nice, I’d like to share my birthday cake with someone I was close to. What really fucks me off is parents at kids parties so bring out TWO 3 tier birthday cakes for ONE child, demand a round of Happy Birthday singing and then fuck off with both the cakes never to be seen again. Not so much as a Greggs doughnut. What’s the point?!?!

No way are my kids having their own cake.

If they'd waited and come but on different days but not for four minutes difference.

Thing is if the days are close together, it's a lot of cake that gets wasted, and a lot of bloody money of its professional. If they didn't want to share, they'd be home made and smaller

@foxyroxyyy

I mean for twins maybe if they want. I would've been fuming if my mum made me share a cake with my brother!!

But maybe I'm extra. I made my daughter two full on cakes for her 1st birthday even tho there was only one guest in addition to me and her dad 😂

Did you eat it all though or throw half of it away? Fair play of you are it. Who cares how much cake you make. Bit doing it for the photos then binning it is a waste

In the four weeks between Thanksgiving (BIG meal and large family gathering) and Christmas (BIG meal and all family gathering and gifts) we have four family birthdays. Can you imagine four cakes plus gifts and parties?
We combine all four into one Birth Day and have a BIG meal and immediate family gathering and one cake, plus gifts. To make it even easier, the BIG meal is takeaway -- usually Chinese, and every birthday boy/girl gets to order what they want.

My brother and I have birthdays a day apart, I genuinely can't remember if we had separate cakes, which shows you how important it was to child me. We did often have joint parties when we were primary age which was great as it meant twice as many other children there, so they were big and noisy in village halls etc and even though my parents had little money there was usually an entertainer or bouncy castle etc, probably because they only had to do it once a year.

People saying "mean or poor" ......... I can't help thinking if you are on a normal budget for a family with small children poor, then you wouldn't be ordering birthday cakes from a bakery. You'd make one at home or, at most buy it in a supermarket.

However, I really can't imagine how anyone could get worked up about the fact another family might choose to share a birthday cake

Please don't say 'rant over'. Every time I see this it makes me shrivel up and die a little inside - it makes the person who wrote it sound so bloody thick. Sorry.
As for the rest of it, god, who cares.

What a weird judgement to make on other people - I'd hate to ask how you feel about actual problems

My boys are born 5yrs apart to the day. They got separate cakes on my youngest’ s 1st birthday, but I plan to do joint cakes going forward for all birthday other than the milestone ones (their 16th and 21st will be on the same year - god help me!)

Keeping to a theme that will entertain them both will be a challenge, but I like a challenge!

Sooo much cheaper to make it yourself!

And thanks to this thread, I have a massive craving for cake but no flour in the house

I know three sets of twin parents and they always buy two cakes/two parties etc. I think a cake is an individual thing but if they love a shared cake that's fine too of course! I think it's down to the kids - don't make them share if they don't want to.

God forbid siblings having to share something! I bet you are one of those people who buy the non-Birthday child a present on their siblings Birthday OP.

I misread your post title as 'birthday cake rent' which made your issue even more anti climactic for me.

DH is exactly two weeks older than me. We tend to do something to celebrate on the weekend in between our birthdays, so a joint cake is normal here.

Twin mum, always a cake each and happy birthday is sung to each child individually. OP I get your point! Last lockdown birthday I made smaller cakes for them both.

I actually disagree more with twins. They often struggle more with their identity as people straight away group then as "the twins."

Mine are girl/boy so it's a bit easier but to protect them as individuals and I've them what they would have had if they didn't share a birthday they have their own cakes. Also given they are boy/girl they don't like the same things do we need a unicorn and a car.

*I've given them

My DDs are eagerly planning their joint birthday party this summer.
DD1 is ten at the end of June. She wants her sister to share her party since DD2 has had two lockdown birthdays. We are hoping it can happen.
To make it more complicated...DD1 shares a birthday with her grandmother!

Having a specially made cake is definitely fashionable in my area, but it is expensive. If it comes up I'll give mine the choice themselves - you can share a professional cake, or I'll make you one each myself.

Personally I'd rather a Colin the caterpillar!