As the above. Have you ever been love bombed? Discarded? How many times did be return and how did you know be was done?
I've gotten out fairly quickly. But I presume this is what was happening to me and I wanted to see if anyone can confirm it sounds that way?
Met someone. Liked them. Added them on Facebook. Swapped numbers. He liked me too it turned out. He's also older.
He was very intense very quick. Said all the right things. Compliments. Very keen to woo me. Gifts. Loved me within 6 weeks and claimed he had felt it for ages. I was his soulmate. He had never felt like this in 45 years. .
Red flags
Ex girlfriend came up alot and it seemed they were still in touch.
Slowly other women were coming up in a bad light. He made out he attracted alot of unwanted attention but got on well with women and they took it the wrong way.
I started getting gut feelings and 5 weeks ago I caught him out on Facebook of all places eyeing up another women. Then another women was writing stuff under all my comments but was very into him all of a sudden.
I asked him. He went mad. Dumped me, blocked me and said he was done. I contacted one of his stalkers who provided proof he had been stringing her along for 2 years and had destroyed her marriage but they had got back together only for him to return to her life. We swapped stories and it turns out he said similar stuff to us both. Three weeks ago he came back for three days. Wanted to meet and talk. I just had lost all respect for him and said the only conversation I wanted was him to be 100% honest and tell me if he wants me or not and in exactly what way. But I am not interested in games and if there are other women he's also chasing to go and do that and leave me out of it! He didn't respond well and we fell out. He blocked me and unblocked me. Blocked me again.
I've said nothing. He's said nothing. In the couple of days he had returned I purposely accepted his friend request just so I could confirm to myself why I wasn't going to go back there. He didn't disappoint. 2-3 new women on his latest posts. One was already posting love hearts. I clicked on her page and she doesn't live near us so he's going further afield for women. Alot of the women he flirts with are from his school days and 2 hours away. I don't think he tends to get involved locally apart from his longterm ex.
I don't need replies asking me why it matters. Or that I need to move on. I am moving on slowly and it's taking a while. I may need to speak to someone proffesionally if I am not feeling better in a couple of weeks.
I am struggling with what's happened and there's alot more to this situation than I've written. He was bullying me and I didn't realise that at the time.
I just hope people will comment on here who have been in this position before.