16 year old smoking weed

[2ndtimemum2]

Hi wise people of mumsnet, please help!

So after falling asleep on my couch I come up the stairs after 1am to the unmistakable smell.of weed...I go into my sons room and the smell of aftershave and a strong smelling candle burning, I can still smell the weed. I asked him straight out if he was smoking it and he tried to deny it but I knew he had been and he admitted it. I told him he was disrespectful and that there is a baby in the house and I am disappointed in this behaviour and we would talk about in the morning.

For background he's started hanging around with a new bunch of lads and 2 of the boys parents would be known for hard partying and drinking and drug taking but I don't believe in judging kids by their parents so gave them the benefit of the doubt.

I am not blaming anyone else only my son the worrying thing is I can't put it down to experimenting because he was in his room alone and doing it. I just don't know what to do now, I'm gonna have to talk to him, how do I punish him? Do I stop him hanging with these guys? My mind is racing right now

God, and he thought you wouldn't smell it? I agree, it's massively disrespectful and dangerous to be smoking it in the house, especially when you've got a baby there.
I don't think it's his first time either, but how would you stop him from seeing the other lads? Surely if he wanted more weed he'd just get it himself anyway?
I've no idea how I would punish him though, I'm not at that stage of parenthood yet, I've got it all to come.

Hi OP,
Tell him straight he can smoke as much weed as he wants outside your house from now on but to Never smoke In your home .
Also ask him how he affords it and can he pay you some rent ?

@Notapheasantplucker

God, and he thought you wouldn't smell it? I agree, it's massively disrespectful and dangerous to be smoking it in the house, especially when you've got a baby there. I don't think it's his first time either, but how would you stop him from seeing the other lads? Surely if he wanted more weed he'd just get it himself anyway? I've no idea how I would punish him though, I'm not at that stage of parenthood yet, I've got it all to come.

Definitely not the first time I've had my suspicions for the last month or so but had no proof and nothing to go on! So angry at myself that here I was thinking that he wouldn't be so disrespectful and actually do it in my home, that when he's had friends over that they've probably being do it while I'm in my room asleep!!

And I can't put it down to expirementing because he was doing it alone in his room and my gut is telling its been a while

Would he be bothered that the supply of this stuff supports county lines (child abuse), gang violence, cuckolding ( abuse of the vulnerable) and knife crime? Because it does. And he needs to get out before he is involved.

I would say you cant smoke it in the house, my ds is older and smokes it outside on a walk sometimes but is not allowed in the house, just as it would be for cigarettes.
Yours is younger though so I would need to talk to him.