To find this woman a hypocrite TW

[Gardentime76]

A woman in a Facebook group reported my dd 24 to the police for feeling suicidal. This woman then messaged dd asking her to give her number to her or the police would be knocking. Dd said she didn’t want to this woman kept on at her so she did. The woman then said she wanted to step back for her own well-being. Leaving dd to worry about it if she had passed the number onto the police or not. So she spent days worrying about them turning up. This woman has taken an overdose while talking to dd in the past and then not responded to her. She’s since called dd detrimental and toxic. Aibu to think she’s a bit of a hypocrite and unkind?

I think it might be a good idea for your dd to block her. It is unusual behaviour. It doesn't seem like the things she says would be helpful for your dd.

How do they know each other? The whole situation sounds completely toxic.

I can’t tell why the woman reported your dd to the police? Was it because the woman thought your dd was suicidal?

If so then surely that’s fair enough. The woman should do something if she thinks another person is suicidal.

I don’t think hypocrisy can come in to this.

Or unkindness. I don’t think it’s unkind to not respond to someone after you have taken an overdose. There is likely to be another reason other than unkindness. And they do sound toxic and detrimental to one another.

I would advise your dd not to have any further communication with this woman. It doesn’t sound healthy for either of them.

She does want to block her but because she doesn’t know what’s going on with the police she feels she can’t. The woman is quite a bit older at 49 and dd felt sorry for her as she was lonely.

There was a thread on here last week about this situation but with Instagram and access- was this you op?

She’s making a big deal about the fact my dd was suicidal but yet took and overdose while talking to her so she caused stress to my dd. She still supported her though and didn’t refuse to talk to her.

Tell your daughter to take screenshots of all the conversations that they have had. Then she should block this woman. What an earth can the police do?

No this is a Facebook group for people who suffer from mental health conditions in our local area.

She's twice her age, not a bit older.

Blocking her or not blocking her won't make any difference at all if the police are involved. Which it doesn't sound like they are.

@Gardentime76

No this is a Facebook group for people who suffer from mental health conditions in our local area.

OK well that's very unlikely to go well.

Those sorts of groups are often full of people who trigger one another. There's been countless dramas in any of those groups I've seen.

She's best off coming out of it.

She called the police because dd was suicidal. They are apparently involved due to her well-being. I’ve advised dd not to use these groups but obviously she’s an adult and I can’t stop her.

If this happened days ago, the police are hardly going to turn up now are they?

Yeah, I agree. This doesn't sound at all like a healthy group for your daughter. I understand it must be difficult for her to access support at this time, but if I was you I'd be advising her to leave this group and block this woman.

Well the woman said they were going to and they haven’t called dd. I think she joined the group as she feels she can’t be honest with a lot of her other friends as they don’t understand mental health.

There are better moderated groups available than Facebook. Maybe have her check out Kooth.com?

Easiest way to put her mind at rest is for your dd to call the police herself, or you on her behalf.

Police will be grateful as it means they can write off their log if it has been reported and they know your dd is safeguarded, has MH engagement etc.

It will also be useful in future if the police have her or her appropriate adult’s number so again, if a report is made a quick phone call will sort it rather than sending officers out.