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Driving along with police car behind me

98 replies

Iloverain · 16/04/2021 11:19

I did not know here to post it. Am probably absolutely Aibu to worry?
NC.
I’m fairly newish driver in late 40s I would say not much confident.
I was driving yesterday from work.
A police car gave me a way on a busy roundabout and drove all the way behind me across quiet town where I live- about 3 miles- behind me all the way.
I was keeping the speed 30 ( got to 31 for a split of a second) but was nervous, thinking are they observing my driving, am I too slow, should I give way too oncoming vehicle in a narrow road if the vehicle was too still far..
Tell me I got nothing to worry about- as I said I don’t drive often, once a week maximum really.
I am now worry that I will get some fine for wrong kind of driving.
In the end I turned into my road and they kept driving but still.

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Needahug72 · 16/04/2021 11:22

Don’t worry it will just have been a coincidence. If they were going to fine you they would have stopped you.

Oh and I have been driving for years and still get nervous when there is a police car behind me even though I have never been stopped or fined for anything 😉

Febo24 · 16/04/2021 11:22

I very much doubt it, in the politest possibly terms I reckon they've got bigger fish to fry. Ii understand though it making you feel uneasy.

GlassBoxSpectacular · 16/04/2021 11:22

They just happened to be going the same way as you.

Literally nothing whatsoever to worry about. If they had concerns about your driving they’d have pulled you over.

ILoveMyMonkey · 16/04/2021 11:22

I think you’re overthinking it. I’m sure they were just heading the same way as you.
Given all the really shitty drivers on the roads who never get in trouble you have nothing to worry about.
Most police aren’t interested in drivers and definitely wouldn’t pull you over for 31 in a 30.

Febo24 · 16/04/2021 11:23

Did you throw your stash out the window though? Might have roused their suspicions.

GrandDuchessRomanov · 16/04/2021 11:23

They would have pulled you over if they thought you were driving badly.

Forget it. Non event.

greeneyedlulu · 16/04/2021 11:24

If they wanted to talk to you about anything you'd done wrong, they would have pulled you over. Dont worry about it, it was just a coincidence.

TheQueef · 16/04/2021 11:24

You need to practice more.
You shouldn't be that nervy in charge of a vehicle.

Iloverain · 16/04/2021 11:27

Thank you.
As I said I’m probably idiot thinking about it still, but I think can they have a cameras in that car a measure my speed which I kept( it’s 30 zone) well they enough time to pull up my details.
They had no blue lights on or anything.
At one point when I was to give a way to oncoming vehicle in tight road I misjudged it and went though- the oncoming car sped up so I had to break, the police had to do the same - drove behind me same ways they followed me the same way as I went- meaning they did not give the way to that oncoming car either.
I always worry about everything..

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LimitIsUp · 16/04/2021 11:27

@TheQueef

You need to practice more. You shouldn't be that nervy in charge of a vehicle.
^^ this

Best way to build your confidence is to do more driving. If you are a little nervous try getting up really early on a day when you don't have to work, to have a drive around before the traffic builds up

DontGoIntoTheLongGrass · 16/04/2021 11:28

You'd have been pulled over if you were doing something wrong. Likely they were following you and running your plates to check insurance and such. Could have been just driving around and gone same way as you.

Iloverain · 16/04/2021 11:28

@Febo24 nope, did not Chuck anything.
They joined me on big rounbound where they gave me a way. Just drove normally.

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Iloverain · 16/04/2021 11:29

@TheQueef I’m normally not nervous only if police behind me for longer periods.

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VapeVamp12 · 16/04/2021 11:30

I'm a confident driver but I always feel a bit nervous when I have police behind me!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 16/04/2021 11:31

Unless you were driving at 30mph down a motorway, I doubt you would be pulled over for driving too slow.

Try to chill a bit. Smile For what it’s worth, I am never a better, more law-abiding driver than when I’m being followed by a police car.

UmbilicusProfundus · 16/04/2021 11:34

I don’t like it when a police car is behind me and I have been driving most days for many years! Doesn’t mean I need more practice or am a nervous driver.

UrAWizHarry · 16/04/2021 11:36

They were just going in the same direction as you. Have you not had that with other cars which seem to follow you for miles and miles?

Reg15 · 16/04/2021 11:36

They’d have pulled you over if there was any concern about your speed and driving.

It’s happened to me a couple of times where a police car that just happened to be behind me pulled me over - once because I had light out (I got told to get it fixed) and once late at night and I did something a bit erratic by accident (they just had a quick word, deduced I hadn’t been drinking or anything and sent me on my way). Believe me they would have pulled you over if there was anything that concerned them.

ProfYaffle · 16/04/2021 11:37

I think everyone gets a bit self conscious when there's a police car behind you!

GlassBoxSpectacular · 16/04/2021 11:39

They had no blue lights on or anything.
At one point when I was to give a way to oncoming vehicle in tight road I misjudged it and went though- the oncoming car sped up so I had to break, the police had to do the same - drove behind me same ways they followed me the same way as I went- meaning they did not give the way to that oncoming car either.

What part of that ‘event’ (which happens to every day, thousands of times) do you believe is something the police would be interested in? Confused

Perhaps look into an advanced driving course, or done additional lessons to build your confidence up. This level of anxiety and confusion about what you can/cannot do when driving is not normal.

0blio · 16/04/2021 11:39

When I started driving I was given this advice - 'Drive as though a police car is behind you and your children are in the car in front.'

It sounds as though it was just a coincidence they drove behind you, if you've done nothing wrong you've nothing to worry about.

GlassBoxSpectacular · 16/04/2021 11:39

^^ “Some” (not ‘done’)

sunflowersandbuttercups · 16/04/2021 11:44

Ah I still get a bit freaked out when I see police even though I know I'm doing nothing wrong!

I got followed home once and they stopped when I parked - I was petrified but they were clearly checking their ANPR or something as they drove off eventually! I was shitting myself though Grin

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 16/04/2021 11:45

Remember: if you are stopped they can only charge you with an offence if they are in full uniform, so the first thing to do is knock their hat off and kick it under your car.

Grin
bluebluezoo · 16/04/2021 11:47

They were probably just going in the same direction as you!