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Relationship with father

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peanutbutterporridge · 16/04/2021 02:20

Backstory. I had a great relationship with my dad growing up. I was a total daddy’s girl and he adored me. I went to boarding school at 16 and my parents’ already rocky marriage deteriorated. They divorced in my early 20s and dad met someone else who I really like. They’re great for each other and I’m very happy he’s happy. I’m now mid 30s, and the last 10 years (since he has remarried), contact has lessened between us. He doesn’t call unless it’s my birthday, and so I will call him about once a week usually. He is kind, and sends birthday/Christmas cards and money, but there isn’t much thought in this. His wife is very close to her own children and by extension he is now also very close to her kids too. Whenever we see each other (usually just at Christmas), he seems more interested in their lives than in mine/my brother’s. Loves talking about them, or to them when they’re there. I’m genuinely happy he gets on so well with them but don’t understand why he is so disinterested in my life now, especially after we had such a good relationship when I was growing up. I had a baby 6 months ago and thought this would change his contact but I still don’t hear from him. I have to call him and he doesn’t always seem interested in talking or seeing me/his granddaughter. Am I being unreasonable to expect more contact? Should I just stop calling? Has anyone else experienced this? I haven’t spoken to him about this. He’s not really one to talk about feelings.

DawnMumsnet · 16/04/2021 08:26

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